In praise of the vir­tual Re­bound

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by Georgina avloni­tis af­ter three and a half years to­gether, my last break-up, with the one i thought was “the one”, was a soul-crush­ing four-hour ses­sion of me pac­ing in his kitchen with mas­cara all over my face. the next few days were filled with cut­ting dis­il­lu­sion­ment, and any dis­trac­tion felt like a mir­a­cle—so, at my best friend’s be­hest, i gin­gerly joined the tin­der­sphere. a fter a few swipes left and right, a num­ber of matches, and the oc­ca­sional “su­per­like”, i no­ticed how i was feel­ing. i was get­ting pos­i­tive af­fir­ma­tion and at­ten­tion from men i thought were at­trac­tive. i was hav­ing fun! i stopped ob­sess­ing over the de­tails and fail­ures of my past re­la­tion­ship, and in­stead got lost in a se­ries of vir­tual flir­ta­tions. cheeky chit-chat, witty ban­ter, and some gen­uinely in­ter­est­ing con­ver­sa­tions filled the spa­ces in the day where i’d oth­er­wise be pin­ing away and feel­ing lonely. w hen we’re newly sin­gle, our exes are painfully ac­ces­si­ble. i needed a dis­trac­tion to stop con­stantly check­ing for any on­line posts, mes­sages, or ac­tiv­ity from him. tin­der turned out to be just the fix: and the best part was, i didn’t have to make my­self vul­ner­a­ble and go out on an ac­tual date un­til i was ready to. what it did was get me my groove back. Ps: it doesn’t have to be tin­der. other “get-your-groove­back” op­tions in­clude happn, bum­ble, okcu­pid, and match.com.

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