In praise of the virtual Rebound
by Georgina avlonitis after three and a half years together, my last break-up, with the one i thought was “the one”, was a soul-crushing four-hour session of me pacing in his kitchen with mascara all over my face. the next few days were filled with cutting disillusionment, and any distraction felt like a miracle—so, at my best friend’s behest, i gingerly joined the tindersphere. a fter a few swipes left and right, a number of matches, and the occasional “superlike”, i noticed how i was feeling. i was getting positive affirmation and attention from men i thought were attractive. i was having fun! i stopped obsessing over the details and failures of my past relationship, and instead got lost in a series of virtual flirtations. cheeky chit-chat, witty banter, and some genuinely interesting conversations filled the spaces in the day where i’d otherwise be pining away and feeling lonely. w hen we’re newly single, our exes are painfully accessible. i needed a distraction to stop constantly checking for any online posts, messages, or activity from him. tinder turned out to be just the fix: and the best part was, i didn’t have to make myself vulnerable and go out on an actual date until i was ready to. what it did was get me my groove back. Ps: it doesn’t have to be tinder. other “get-your-grooveback” options include happn, bumble, okcupid, and match.com.
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