Assigning a sexual peak to any age is pretty much BS, says sex therapist Laura Berman, PHD, author of
And thank goodness, because there are lots of times when we feel more turned on than others, like that rush of sexiness you feel when you start dating someone new. And even though your estrogen and testosterone levels begin to drop as you age, both are just physiological predictors of arousal, and “sex is about so much more than a physiologic urge,” says Berman. In your 20s, desire might come from a spontaneous horniness, and in your 30s, it can come from that too but also from connecting with your partner. So basically, keeping things hot is a matter of the brain, not the birthday.