Peo­ple WHO Hit like sev­eral times a day

Cosmopolitan (Philippines) - - You, You, You -

artist Ben Grosser, who rec­og­nized how so­cial me­dia plays into our “in­sa­tiable de­sire to make ev­ery num­ber go higher.”

I posted an ar­ti­cle I’d writ­ten that I was re­ally proud of, and when I checked back later, it didn’t say “32 peo­ple Liked this” but just “peo­ple Liked this.” I opened Face­book two more times dur­ing the day, but with­out an up­dated tally to track my progress, it wasn’t ac­tu­ally that re­ward­ing and I didn’t care about check­ing back on it—i ac­tu­ally fell asleep with­out hav­ing checked for hours. The num­bers for how many peo­ple com­mented on my post were also erased, but I did still catch my­self try­ing to gauge how I was do­ing by count­ing the com­ments.

For In­sta­gram, I de­cided to try a ver­sion of Rosen’s ad­vice: Af­ter you post, try go­ing 15 min­utes with­out open­ing the app, then check for one minute, then restart the 15-minute timer. Up the no-check­ing span by five min­utes ev­ery day. For two days, I took the no­ti­fi­ca­tions off my phone and posted pics only be­fore I had ac­tiv­i­ties that would keep me away from my phone for the next few hours—a long drive, a movie, a din­ner with friends. Truth­fully, it was more ex­cit­ing to see a bunch of Likes ac­cu­mu­lated at once, even if it was just 11, than it was watch­ing them trickle in all day. I def­i­nitely dwelled on my Likes less. It felt more like I was ac­tu­ally post­ing to share mo­ments with my friends, not to eval­u­ate how good those mo­ments were based on other peo­ple’s opin­ions. Af­ter all, the best con­nec­tions are the ones made with peo­ple who truly like you, not just Like you. Now if you’ll ex­cuse me, I have to go walk my dog on the beach. oc­to­ber 2016 Cos­mopoli­tan

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