People WHO Hit like several times a day
artist Ben Grosser, who recognized how social media plays into our “insatiable desire to make every number go higher.”
I posted an article I’d written that I was really proud of, and when I checked back later, it didn’t say “32 people Liked this” but just “people Liked this.” I opened Facebook two more times during the day, but without an updated tally to track my progress, it wasn’t actually that rewarding and I didn’t care about checking back on it—i actually fell asleep without having checked for hours. The numbers for how many people commented on my post were also erased, but I did still catch myself trying to gauge how I was doing by counting the comments.
For Instagram, I decided to try a version of Rosen’s advice: After you post, try going 15 minutes without opening the app, then check for one minute, then restart the 15-minute timer. Up the no-checking span by five minutes every day. For two days, I took the notifications off my phone and posted pics only before I had activities that would keep me away from my phone for the next few hours—a long drive, a movie, a dinner with friends. Truthfully, it was more exciting to see a bunch of Likes accumulated at once, even if it was just 11, than it was watching them trickle in all day. I definitely dwelled on my Likes less. It felt more like I was actually posting to share moments with my friends, not to evaluate how good those moments were based on other people’s opinions. After all, the best connections are the ones made with people who truly like you, not just Like you. Now if you’ll excuse me, I have to go walk my dog on the beach. october 2016 Cosmopolitan