There’s no law saying that everyone has to enjoy oral sex. It could just be that it’s not for you, says sex educator Emily Nagoski, PHD, author of Comeasyouare. Or it could just be that your guy, although enthusiastic, might benefit from some coaching or a flip through Ian Kerner’s Shecomesfirst, which should practically be required reading for men everywhere. (Now there’s a law we’d support!) The next time it’s about to go down, try your fingers or a vibrator too, Nagoski suggests. And remember that you’re dating someone who wants to make you feel comfortable and happy, which is better than an oral O any day.