Up YOUR BIG-O Odds
It’s no secret that most women climax far less frequently than guys do…and new research is helping expose why. It’s time to get your fair share of satisfaction.
This may be the missing piece in your climax puzzle.
orgasms during sex can Be like rainbows:
unpredictable and rare— well, at least for many straight women. Compared with any other gender and sexual orientation, hetero ladies ranked dead last in their likeliness to climax during their sexual encounters with a partner in the past month, according to a recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. In fact, while 75 percent of dudes said they always finish when getting it on, only 33 percent of women could say the same.
Yeah…we know. So not fair. And this pleasure gap between the sexes has been an issue for as long as women have been faking it (read: a very long time!). But now, we’re getting some explanations. “Often, men don’t know what they’re doing,” says the study’s lead author, David Frederick, PHD, assistant professor of psychology at Chapman University. Nearly one-third of guys assume vaginal intercourse alone will get most women off. In reality, however, only 20 to 30 percent of us can regularly hit a high note from penetration alone. The vast majority of us need clitoral stimulation.
Add to the problem that some straight women are failing to have an open dialogue with their men about the way they experience pleasure and orgasms, says Justin Garcia, PHD, a sex researcher at the Kinsey Institute and a coauthor of the study. And what are you left with? A sex life in which your guy gets his happy ending— maybe while thinking he’s rocked your world too—and you lie there feeling unsatisfied.
Luckily, bridging the gap is possible—and your man will be happy to help. “Most guys want their partner to orgasm because satisfying their partner is tied to their selfesteem,” says Frederick. It’s time to even the scorecard with these tips.
It’s time you came out on top.