Up YOUR BIG-O Odds

It’s no se­cret that most women cli­max far less fre­quently than guys do…and new re­search is help­ing ex­pose why. It’s time to get your fair share of sat­is­fac­tion.

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This may be the miss­ing piece in your cli­max puz­zle.

or­gasms dur­ing sex can Be like rain­bows:

un­pre­dictable and rare— well, at least for many straight women. Com­pared with any other gen­der and sex­ual ori­en­ta­tion, het­ero ladies ranked dead last in their like­li­ness to cli­max dur­ing their sex­ual en­coun­ters with a part­ner in the past month, ac­cord­ing to a re­cent study pub­lished in the Ar­chives of Sex­ual Be­hav­ior. In fact, while 75 per­cent of dudes said they al­ways fin­ish when get­ting it on, only 33 per­cent of women could say the same.

Yeah…we know. So not fair. And this plea­sure gap be­tween the sexes has been an is­sue for as long as women have been fak­ing it (read: a very long time!). But now, we’re get­ting some ex­pla­na­tions. “Of­ten, men don’t know what they’re do­ing,” says the study’s lead au­thor, David Fred­er­ick, PHD, as­sis­tant pro­fes­sor of psy­chol­ogy at Chap­man Univer­sity. Nearly one-third of guys as­sume vagi­nal intercourse alone will get most women off. In re­al­ity, how­ever, only 20 to 30 per­cent of us can reg­u­larly hit a high note from pen­e­tra­tion alone. The vast ma­jor­ity of us need cli­toral stim­u­la­tion.

Add to the prob­lem that some straight women are fail­ing to have an open di­a­logue with their men about the way they ex­pe­ri­ence plea­sure and or­gasms, says Justin Gar­cia, PHD, a sex re­searcher at the Kin­sey In­sti­tute and a coau­thor of the study. And what are you left with? A sex life in which your guy gets his happy end­ing— maybe while think­ing he’s rocked your world too—and you lie there feel­ing un­sat­is­fied.

Luck­ily, bridg­ing the gap is pos­si­ble—and your man will be happy to help. “Most guys want their part­ner to or­gasm be­cause sat­is­fy­ing their part­ner is tied to their self­es­teem,” says Fred­er­ick. It’s time to even the score­card with th­ese tips.

It’s time you came out on top.

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