Friends for Life?
How many breakup stories have you read recently? More than a handful, I would guess. Heartbreak, at least the romantic kind, is easier to talk about. There is something so irresistible about pounding away on a keyboard and lamenting a lost love over a glass of merlot, with Adele blaring in the background. It’s cathartic. Instinctive, even.
But when it comes to breakups between friends, it’s harder to process. When a seemingly unshakeable female friendship turns sour, we turn silent. Is it because female friendships run deeper than most romantic relationships ever could, and therefore cut closer to the bone when they end? Is it because boys cheating or lying or letting us down would be a sweeter pill to swallow than the bitter betrayal only girls can execute? Or is it because, deep inside, we know that a falling out between friends is never just about a singular incident—the resentment bubbling beneath the surface months and years before it exploded—and never just one party’s fault?
In “Why Are Female Friendships So Complicated?” in this issue’s Feel section, we dissect aspects of girl friendships that go beyond the slumber parties and GNOS. The reality is that competition can brew between even the closest of friends; it’s completely natural for proximity to breed comparison. How you handle it—selfishly or kindly, with honesty or with passive-aggression—is the crucial part.
At 32, with high school dynamics almost two decades behind me, I thought friendships would be easier. And to a certain extent, they are, because by now I’ve learned to keep only the friends I can be myself with. But adult friendships also require more work, more sensitivity, more purpose—that’s what makes them worth it. Because while it’s hard to write about friendships that fail, the friendships that do survive make for the best stories.
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Marla Miniano, Editor in Chief
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