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perceived as an effect of the experience she’s gained through the years.
“I’m so in touch with my inner sexuality,” she claims. “I’ve always had it since I was a little girl. I’m not kidding. I’m a very sexual person, but I manage it. I’ve always been aware of it. I feel like the more I age, it becomes stronger. It’s in me. People notice my sensuality in the way I move or in the way I flip my hair, even when I’m not totally conscious of it. It’s definitely not a weakness. That is a kind of power. I’ve never been in denial of it. But remember that you always have to use it wisely. Don’t abuse it, but don’t ignore or feel ashamed about it [either]. You can have that power and no one even needs to know that you’re in possession of it.”
That’s the sort of eloquence and intelligence everyone should aspire to— regardless of which generation you belong. I told her, if you feel that it makes you happy, then you should do it. But of course, you shouldn’t force other women to do it as well just because you want to fight for it. That’s not cool. To each his own. It has to be done for the right reasons and we should never pressure other girls to do it when they don’t want to.”
Although she doesn’t claim to be a feminist of any sort, the way in which she takes ownership of her innate sexuality is highly evolved and can be however, is her atypical modern approach to female sexuality. In an age where keyboard feminism has taken centerstage, sometimes skewing the true meaning of what it means to be a real feminist, Ina’s beliefs are grounded on recognizing her inherent sensuality and nurturing it, brandishing it like a sharpened blade only when it doesn’t hurt other women in the process. And this is a philosophy she isn’t afraid of passing on to her kin.
“Women nowadays are so strong and brave,” she observes, recalling a recent conversation she had with one of her more opinionated daughters. “The other night, my daughter asked me if I thought it was okay for women to show their chests the way men do. She said that she thought it wasn’t fair that women get judged for showing their boobs and yet men don’t. My daughter, she thinks like that, and I’m proud of her.