Love In The Digital Age
ONLINE DATING? Ew. That was my initial reaction to suggestions that I find love through the Internet. I thought that it would make me seem desperate, and I certainly was not. In fact, I was the total opposite of desperate. I had a verbal contract to write a book titled Howtobea Happyandholysingle, and was giving the talk “Living Life to the Max” for singles all over the Philippines, and even some parts of Asia and the States.
But in the last 15 years, I have had a number of really wise and godly female friends who found great husbands through the Net, the best option given their lack of time or inclination for the normal dating scene. Meanwhile, I was always traveling, and most of the men I would meet during my missionary work were half my age. So when in 2012, one of my friends decided to sponsor my registration on one dating website, I thought, “Why not?”
Five months later, Keith arrived at NAIA Terminal 1. Through our e-mails, phone conversations, and Skype talks— combined with positive feedback from friends in Indiana, where he was from—i grew confident that he fit the three Gs: godly, golden (in terms of age), and guwapo. So when he asked if he could come to the Philippines to get to know me and my world even better, I felt confident enough to agree to it.
I was late picking him up at the airport, so he had to wait 30 minutes in a crowd of Filipinos coming home for the holidays. As I inched my way to the arrival area,
Sacredsearch:whatifit’snot Aboutwhoyoumarry,butwhy? and Sacredmarriage:whatifgoddesigned Marriagetomakeusholymorethan tomakeushappy?— GermainesantosCochranisahappy homemakerand volunteerforseveral missionorganizationsin Bloomington,indiana. Sheispleasantly surprisedtofindherself happilymarriedtoher irog,keithcochran,a musiclibrarianatthe Universityofindiana.
and found that our answers to the discussion questions at the end of each chapter really matched well. So when he proposed marriage in August of 2013, I said “yes” with tears in my eyes, just amazed at how the Lord brought me all the way to that point.
We were married in January of 2014 with a ton of people in attendance. It was also my way of saying goodbye to my very challenging yet rewarding life as a missionary for the Campus Crusade for Christ, where I served for 26 years. Although the move to Bloomington, Indiana, was a big step for me, it was made very easy by the quality of my irog’s character and the warmth of the local church community that we have become a part of.
It’s amazing how I have come so far, literally and emotionally—first averse to Internet dating to being on a dating site, from being a very content single woman to a very happily married one, from Asia to America, from missionary to homemaker. But I do feel like I am applying what I’ve taught in my talks before, now loving and living this life that God has given to the max.