Life Lessons

Love In The Dig­i­tal Age

Good Housekeeping (Philippines) - - GH January-february 2016 -

ON­LINE DAT­ING? Ew. That was my ini­tial re­ac­tion to sug­ges­tions that I find love through the In­ter­net. I thought that it would make me seem des­per­ate, and I cer­tainly was not. In fact, I was the to­tal op­po­site of des­per­ate. I had a ver­bal con­tract to write a book ti­tled How­to­bea Hap­pyand­holysin­gle, and was giv­ing the talk “Liv­ing Life to the Max” for sin­gles all over the Philip­pines, and even some parts of Asia and the States.

But in the last 15 years, I have had a num­ber of really wise and godly fe­male friends who found great hus­bands through the Net, the best op­tion given their lack of time or in­cli­na­tion for the nor­mal dat­ing scene. Mean­while, I was al­ways trav­el­ing, and most of the men I would meet dur­ing my mis­sion­ary work were half my age. So when in 2012, one of my friends de­cided to spon­sor my reg­is­tra­tion on one dat­ing web­site, I thought, “Why not?”

Five months later, Keith ar­rived at NAIA Ter­mi­nal 1. Through our e-mails, phone con­ver­sa­tions, and Skype talks— com­bined with pos­i­tive feed­back from friends in In­di­ana, where he was from—i grew con­fi­dent that he fit the three Gs: godly, golden (in terms of age), and guwapo. So when he asked if he could come to the Philip­pines to get to know me and my world even bet­ter, I felt con­fi­dent enough to agree to it.

I was late pick­ing him up at the air­port, so he had to wait 30 min­utes in a crowd of Filipinos com­ing home for the hol­i­days. As I inched my way to the ar­rival area,

Sa­cred­search:what­i­fit’snot Aboutwhoy­oumarry,butwhy? and Sa­cred­mar­riage:what­ifgod­de­signed Mar­riage­tomakeusholy­morethan tomakeushappy?— Ger­maine­san­tosCochranisa­happy home­makerand vol­un­teer­for­se­veral mis­sionor­ga­ni­za­tion­sin Bloom­ing­ton,in­di­ana. Sheis­pleas­antly sur­prisedtofind­her­self hap­pi­ly­mar­ried­to­her irog,kei­th­cochran,a mu­si­cli­brar­i­anatthe Univer­si­ty­ofind­i­ana.

and found that our an­swers to the dis­cus­sion ques­tions at the end of each chap­ter really matched well. So when he pro­posed mar­riage in Au­gust of 2013, I said “yes” with tears in my eyes, just amazed at how the Lord brought me all the way to that point.

We were mar­ried in Jan­uary of 2014 with a ton of peo­ple in at­ten­dance. It was also my way of say­ing good­bye to my very chal­leng­ing yet re­ward­ing life as a mis­sion­ary for the Cam­pus Cru­sade for Christ, where I served for 26 years. Al­though the move to Bloom­ing­ton, In­di­ana, was a big step for me, it was made very easy by the qual­ity of my irog’s char­ac­ter and the warmth of the lo­cal church com­mu­nity that we have be­come a part of.

It’s amaz­ing how I have come so far, lit­er­ally and emo­tion­ally—first averse to In­ter­net dat­ing to be­ing on a dat­ing site, from be­ing a very con­tent sin­gle woman to a very hap­pily mar­ried one, from Asia to Amer­ica, from mis­sion­ary to home­maker. But I do feel like I am ap­ply­ing what I’ve taught in my talks be­fore, now lov­ing and liv­ing this life that God has given to the max.

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