PAR­ENT­ING TIPS FROM A SIN­GLE MOM

Philippine Daily Inquirer - - ENTERTAINMENT - By Allan Poli­car­pio

Asa sin­gle par­ent, ac­tress-tele­vi­sion host Bet­tina Car­los can’t let her­self get over­whelmed by fears. “You’re the only one phys­i­cally there to par­ent your child. And when you’re a first-time mother, you tend to be para­noid over some things. But that fear won’t help you; it won’t do you any good,” Bet­tina, who has a 7year-old daugh­ter whom she fondly calls Gummy, said at the re­cent Nido 3+ 5+ City Chal­lenge at Kid Za­nia Manila.

“So, it’s im­por­tant that you lift up your child and your life to the one who can re­ally pro­tect you,” she pointed out. “And that’s God.”

While Gummy grew up with­out a fa­ther—whom she has yet to meet—Bet­tina and her kid can man­age just be­cause of the ef­fi­cient “fam­ily setup” they have in place.

It also helps that Gummy is well-trained from such a young age.

“We’re to­gether in al­most ev­ery­thing. She’s with me when I work or when I’m in the kitchen. Now, we’re to­gether when she’s home­schooled… So, she knows how to be­have in dif­fer­ent sit­u­a­tions no mat­ter where we are,” said Bet­tina, adding that com­mu­ni­ca­tion is also key.

Breath­ing space

“When mommy’s work­ing, she helps me or she has her alone time. I com­mu­ni­cate with her that this is our sched­ule—what’s go­ing to hap­pen to­day, if she wants to go with me,” she said.

But though they’re prac­ti­ca­bly in­sep­a­ra­ble, Bet­tina makes sure to give her child breath­ing space and a chance to think for her­self.

“I take a step back, ask her and give her choices… But I see to it to over­see her choices and make her ac­count­able for them,” she said.

Her par­ent­ing style, Bet­tina—who was last seen in the Ka­puso pro­grams “Hay, Ba­hay!” and “Sa Pil­ing Ni Nanay”—is a “cross be­tween le­nient and au­thor­i­ta­tive.”

Bet­tina also feels that par­ents shouldn’t be too afraid to let their kids go out and ex­plore.

“Con­trary to be­lief, do­ing this will do more good than harm,” she said.

Bet­tina Car­los and daugh­ter Gummy

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