For­give­ness

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FOR­GIVE­NESS is com­monly de­fined as “to cease to feel re­sent­ment to­wards some­one for an of­fence, flaw or mis­take” or “to let go of past grudges or lin­ger­ing anger against a per­son or per­sons who did some­thing wrong”.

APA (2006:5) de­scribes it as an in­ten­tional and vol­un­tary process that in­volves a change in emo­tion and at­ti­tude re­gard­ing an of­fender. It is said to be driven by a de­lib­er­ate de­ci­sion to for­give that de­creases “mo­ti­va­tion to re­tal­i­ate or main­tain es­trange­ment from an of­fender de­spite their ac­tions, and re­quires let­ting go of neg­a­tive emo­tions to­ward the of­fender”.

From this def­i­ni­tion, it ap­pears that self-de­nial is an in­dis­pens­able re­quire­ment in for­give­ness which makes it chal­leng­ing to most peo­ple. Chal­leng­ing as it is restor­ing back whole­some re­la­tion­ship with an of­fender to one’s own hurt.

Un­der­stand­ing deeper the na­ture of for­give­ness as a value, it is divine and be­yond hu­man ca­pac­ity be­cause most vic­tim nat­u­rally re­tal­i­ate or har­bor bit­ter­ness against the of­fender and a scar in the heart can only be re­moved by divine in­ter­ven­tion. This hap­pens when one pours out all hurts to God and emotional heal­ing fol­lows. Un­less and un­til a per­son leaves ev­ery­thing in the hand of the Almighty, strug­gle con­tin­ues against the pains of the past that keep haunt­ing day and night. Worse is when health con­di­tion is at­tacked by sleep­less nights, sick­ness, or dis­eases as opined by med­i­cal experts.

What makes for­give­ness even more divine is the fact that only by the un­con­di­tional love of God that for­give­ness is made pos­si­ble. That God kind of love was ev­i­dent when He loved us while we are still sin­ners and that His love for mankind pre­vailed over judg­ment. “Father, for­give them for they do not know what they are do­ing” is also a no­table pro­nounce­ment that bea­cons for­give­ness be­yond hu­man plane. We can also in­ter­pret from the Scrip­tures that for­give­ness is bound­less or end­less, which should be “seventy times seven”, and only through divine en­able­ment that such stan­dard is met.

For­give­ness was ex­em­pli­fied by Joseph the dreamer, where his brothers hated him and even planned to kill him. His brothers even­tu­ally sold him in­stead to mer­chants that led him to be­come slave and pris­oner of Egypt for wrong ac­cu­sa­tions. When his sta­tus im­proved in Egypt and the op­por­tu­nity came for him to re­tal­i­ate against his brothers, for­give­ness over­shad­owed his neg­a­tive emo­tions and saw all things in a dif­fer­ent light. He learned that his painful past brought about by the neg­a­tive cir­cum­stances that hap­pened to him, as per­pe­trated by his brothers, has pre­pared him for a big­ger task and for a higher pur­pose – to save his fam­ily and the en­tire next gen­er­a­tion from the on­slaught of famine.

For­give­ness, there­fore, is eas­ier to ap­ply when we strive to fo­cus on the pur­poses of God be­yond the painful ex­pe­ri­ences com­mit­ted by our fel­low­men. It must be a con­stant prac­tice since life on earth car­ries no guar­an­tee of to­tal free­dom from hurts and pains which can be com­mit­ted by any­one, even peo­ple who are clos­est to us. It pro­motes har­mo­nious work­ing re­la­tion­ship in a work­place and a peace­ful liv­ing in a fam­ily and so­ci­ety.

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