Pro­tect your peace

#Pro­jec­tHap­pi­ is short and time is a thief that waits for no one, so make hap­pi­ness a top pri­or­ity!

Sun.Star Cagayan de Oro - - Front Page - WABE BY HAN­NAH VIC­TO­RIA

Peace of mind is an im­por­tant com­po­nent of health and well be­ing. If we al­low neg­a­tiv­ity to creep into our lives, it can only lead to un­due stress, with the lat­ter ca­pa­ble of killing fast and/ or giv­ing birth to a host of ill­nesses. It is es­sen­tial to pro­tect our peace at any cost. Never apol­o­gize for leav­ing a bad sit­u­a­tion to pre­serve our peace of mind be­cause our hap­pi­ness is im­por­tant. If some­one or some­thing is not bring­ing good en­ergy into our lives, it has got to go. Sim­ple.

Some may prob­a­bly as­sert that walk­ing away from toxic peo­ple or sit­u­a­tions is never that sim­ple and is eas­ier said than done, es­pe­cially after you’ve in­vested time, en­ergy, and feel­ings in cer­tain re­la­tion­ships. Well, you can al­ways set-up bound­aries. And why feel re­gret­ful for some­thing that is no longer work­ing out? When you’ve given the re­la­tion­ship/sit­u­a­tion your best ef­fort, and it still doesn’t end up well, then it’s not your fault. In­stead of wast­ing more pre­cious time, cut the losses, be thank­ful for the role these sit­u­a­tions or peo­ple played in your life, and move on. Don’t let them con­tinue to steal your joy!

You are al­lowed to pro­tect your peace, get rid of tox­i­c­ity, throw out drama, cleanse your space, and cul­ti­vate only love and hap­pi­ness. Be mind­ful of the peo­ple you al­low into your life. Watch out for bad be­hav­ior and be wary, not only be­cause you may get hurt, but also be­cause neg­a­tiv­ity is very con­ta­gious. It’s funny be­cause “happy peo­ple” put a lot of ef­fort in mak­ing “mis­er­able peo­ple” happy, BUT “mis­er­able peo­ple” of­ten have the power to eas­ily make “happy peo­ple” feel mis­er­able. Mis­ery loves com­pany, ika nga (as they say), so it’s easy for their kind of beast to lit­er­ally rain on your pa­rade! Also, re­mem­ber the old say­ing: “Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are”. Choose your cir­cle wisely.

How do you know some­one is toxic and mis­er­able? Just lis­ten to them, feel their aura, and watch what they do. They al­ways have some­thing to say about ev­ery­one, and of­ten, it is not nice. A mis­er­able per­son can­not tol­er­ate see­ing or be­ing around some­one who is happy. They seek, com­pare, and de­stroy other’s hap­pi­ness like it’s game. They twist sto­ries and ma­nip­u­late sit­u­a­tions to suit their ad­van­tage. A toxic per­son is a per­verted beast hid­ing be­hind a mask of divin­ity. Hypocrisy at its finest! They are the type who get of­fended by the truth and have the temer­ity to call it a lie.

Peo­ple who are happy with them­selves do not tell lies or say hurt­ful things to other peo­ple. In­stead, they build peo­ple up and en­cour­age them to fo­cus on good at­tributes and pos­i­tive as­pects. If you find your­self hav­ing the hap­pi­ness be­ing “sucked” from you by the words com­ing from some­one’s mouth or deeds, and far, far away. More­over, when your friend is caught up in bad be­hav­ior and you turn a blind eye, re­mem­ber that it makes you just as bad. Any­one who turns a blind eye on in­jus­tice is com­plicit with an op­pres­sor. Some­times, it’s as sim­ple as say­ing stop or be quiet if you have noth­ing nice to say.

Re­spect your­self enough to say, “I de­serve peace,” and walk away from use­less ar­gu­ments and crappy peo­ple that pre­vent you from at­tain­ing it. Once you ex­pe­ri­ence what healthy is and how it feels, you’ll never set­tle for junk. Per­son­ally, at this point in my life, I don’t tol­er­ate neg­a­tive peo­ple, toxic be­hav­ior, bad at­ti­tude, sense­less drama, and the like. I guess that’s the beauty of ag­ing—you don’t give a damn be­cause you know your worth. I don’t stress my­self out nor lose sleep over who loves or hates me, who speaks or doesn’t speak to me, or who wants to be in or out of my life. I abide by this sim­ple rule: if you like me, I like you more. If you don’t, your loss. Not my prob­lem. Hindi kawalan!

It is im­por­tant to re­lease neg­a­tive emo­tion and let our minds be at peace. Al­ways strive for that over chaos and con­fu­sion. It is bet­ter to be alone than to be in bad com­pany. All our hearts and souls de­serve peace, and we have the power to cre­ate it each day by re­fus­ing any­thing that threat­ens it. There will be things like the traf­fic or our bosses that we can­not con­trol, but God is ever present. We must learn to sur­ren­der all our cares and con­cerns to the Lord be­cause He has the ul­ti­mate power to help carry the load and ease our bur­dens. With Him in the cen­ter of our lives, re­gard­less of storms, un­pre­dictable cir­cum­stances, or bad peo­ple, our peace will never be taken away.

ONE THING I learned from my friends Joy and Khana (who are in this pic) is to be in­ten­tional in cre­at­ing and dwelling in seren­ity.

TIME is a thief so pro­tect your peace and hap­pi­ness.

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