I know, it’s been a while. Would you believe a whole year?
Much has happened for me, and no doubt for you, too, personally and professionally. In short, the last couple of years cannot be considered the best of times. But we move on. This issue marks a comeback for SHE and I thought I might share with you my return journey. I look forward to hearing from you about your own transitions.
For me, 2011 ended on a particularly sad note: that December I lost my dearest friend Karen Beaubrun. (You'll remember we later dedicated an issue to her memory, with her gorgeous daughters on the cover.) From here, it seemed everything was going down at top speed, including what we used to refer to as the economy. You will understand, then, why I felt unhappy, tired, frustrated and unenthusiastic about the future.
But with a new birthday on the horizon, a life-changing mid-path one—my 55th!—I decided to pick myself up, brush off the cobwebs and set out anew.
According to the AARP, I am officially middle-aged. What does that mean, besides relentless backaches and knees determined not to let you have fun? Well, there's the insomnia. But, as always, there's the bright side if only we'll permit our eyes to see it. Turning 55 also means I can get discounted rates at movie theaters, and at IHOP, should I, for the first time, experience an uncontrollable need to sample sticky pancakes.
What else does 55 mean to me? Now let's see: it means that despite the mentioned slight drawbacks, I've done better than all right. At the start of the year I did my physicals, from blood tests, to pap smears to mammograms and blood pressure. After all the pricking and poking and fondling, it turns out I'm a hundred percent A-OK.
Determined not to rest on my laurels, I embarked on a tough fitness regimen and returned to my roots with a high-protein diet. On my birthday in September, I couldn't have felt more proud of myself. I looked and felt wonderful. My bodyweight was as it had been when I was 25. If you can imagine it, I even started tennis lessons. Yes, at 55. It was something I'd always wanted to try but somehow never got down to doing it when I was younger.
My inspiring instructor tells me (bless his fibbing heart!) that if I
keep showing up for training I'll be ready to take on a serious match—at 60! Ah, well. Hope he didn't have Serena Williams in mind.
Then there's my darling son, soon to be 21. (I'm trying to resist saying how time flies!) I'm so happy he's about to finish university and proud he's chosen law as a career. He's superfit and so good-looking (aren't all our sons?) and he's crazy about his parents. He actually thinks his mom and dad are pretty cool!
At 55 I've been married to the same man for 22 years. What's especially nice is that when I tell him how tolerant he's been of my tantrums, he assures me that without them I'd be someone else. And he'd have none of that. I'm twice blessed at 55 to have the two most important men in my life making me feel like Wonder Woman!
In one of my favorite movies, The Golden Pond, Henry Fonda's character says, on turning 80: “I can't believe it got here so quickly.” Now I find myself echoing him. We all hope to be 80 some day but I suspect most of us wouldn't mind at all slowing down the arrival time!
New beginnings and opportunities continue to present themselves. I was blessed to have the opportunity to participate in the production of the highly impressive Hot Couture Fashion show during the 2013 Jazz Festival. (See page 18). It took me back to my days as a fitness promoter in California, and reminded me that there are few things in this life I like better than fashion.
Hot Couture also underscored for me the importance of SHE as the Caribbean woman's platform for free expression, whether in relation to the arts, personal accomplishments, or as a means by which to inspire our sisters, wherever they may be.
And now I'm thinking 2013 wasn't so bad after all. For a start, SHE is back on the newsstands. Who could ask for anything more?
Happy reading y’all.
My favorite bags these days are my Chanel ( love you mom) and my Louis! What else can a girl need?
With SHE cover Ladies Agnes & Berthia catching up and having fun!
Read our HOT COUTURE Report on Saint Lucia’s first ever fashion show extravaganza
Fitness model Casey Marshall has me all excited
about training & bikini shows!
With SHE Creative Director Linda, now a mom with
Dexter and baby #2 on the way!
After 15 years Chrissy (1st ever Art Director at the STAR) and I had our reunion in Orlando. We both
dragged our sons along! So sweet!