Have you ever pondered the impact of all types of relationships on your life and career success?
How they affect the Professional You.
We all know that relationships play a huge part in our lives, but what you may not have thought of is the damage, stagnation and sabotage they may be creating in every aspect of your life. Yes, I’m talking about your love life, finances, health, emotions and profession. Be warned—relationships are affecting the entirety of your being.
As you move though life tackling the intricacies of climbing the professional ladder and developing your skill set while simultaneously building a household, your career can be a challenge. This juggling act can be less difficult when we understand that there are many types of relationships and all of them can impact the professional you.
Contrary to westernised ideology, relationships are much more than collaborations that we have with people. They are alliances which impact the level of success or failure experienced in life. For instance, your disciplined and diligent relationship with your hobby, talent or dream can catapult you into financial independence and success, like Serena Williams, Oprah Winfrey or St Lucia’s Top Chef Nina Compton.
There are relationships; with “things” such as cars, gadgets and designer clothes; relationships with habits, behaviours and beliefs. There are emotional relationships which manifest in us being victims, constantly making excuses, rationalising our point of view and creating romanticised fantasies versus the reality of being with an unavailable lover.
What about our relationship with the present which prevents happiness and peace because of the perception and affiliation with the past and the future? Which I must point out is impacting the professional you.
How many of us are living with regret in a spiral of eroding self-esteem because of what we did or did not do, or are robbed of our dreams because we choose relationships of fear and procrastination.
Bite the bullet and dump relationships that don’t serve you; instead align with those that empower and build self-esteem with characteristics like discipline, consistency, determination and stickability, all of which make navigating the professional ladder less challenging.
In my more than twenty years as a life coach, many clients have asked interesting questions about relationships such as no commitment common law alliances, desires for same sex partnerships or the pain of domestic abuse. The main question they want answered is how can their lives be fixed.
Human beings have the ability to have in-depth conversations, but without the knowledge of a win-win approach and what’s best for the relationship, we constantly miscommunicate, stepping on each other’s feelings like elephants. There can be much parrying from verbal,
Human beings have the ability to have in-depth conversations, but without the knowledge of a win-win approach and what’s best for the relationship, we constantly miscommunicate, stepping on each other’s feelings like elephants.
emotional and physical blows not just from an outside abuser but also from self-sabotaging behaviours—that’s you by the way! The negative mindset impacts any true team player’s thought process and the power of toxic thoughts pervade.
Let me ask you this: Is the mistress “mashing” up your relationship. I bet you immediately think I mean the female ‘jabal’, but there are other ‘mistresses’ like alcohol, the voracious escapism of sports or reading, going out and being anywhere but home, excessive sleeping, 24/7 social media, gambling, pornography and the list goes on... They take priority, they get attention, you’d swear it’s a woman ( or man for that matter), as you choose to spend more and more of your time with your ‘mistress.’
So all in all, the multifaceted nature of your relationships offers clues to your life, exposing your weakness and strengths, ultimately offering lessons that you can choose—if you wish—to listen to and learn.