Family through adoption?
Clearly, being on an adoption waiting list isn't like being pregnant. When you become pregnant, a forty week countdown begins which is mapped out in vivid technicolour detail these days via books, magazines and a host of online parenting resources. Thanks to modern technology and improvements in public health, around the Caribbean we have seen a reduction in infant death rates, so the vast majority of pregnancies progress normally and result in a healthy baby just about nine months after conception.
There's time to study up on birth techniques and baby’s first months; time to shop for teeny little socks and hats and the copious list of things babies need to be comfortable and safe as they enter your world and your family.
Friends and co-workers comment on your glowing complexion, your inflating bump and your sheer luck at not suffering from morning sickness, then send you off on maternity leave with an armful of adorable swag and their best wishes, expectantly awaiting the arrival of your bundle of joy.
So far from the case of the parents who yearn for a family, trying for years to conceive, only to be given the no-news-is-good-news belly blow that there is no obvious reason why it's not happening naturally. The joyful prospect of starting a family becomes an emotionally charged chore behind closed doors, and over the course of months, then years, life becomes an onslaught of insensitive questions and comments from unwitting friends wondering when they can expect to see the literal fruits of your labour.
Disappointment slowly envelops, optimism gradually fades and realism sets in, demanding a reevaluation of the childless status quo, and for an increasing number of couples in the Caribbean, that means considering adoption as a practical way to start a family. That giant leap taken, the registration process is time-consuming but becomes the catalyst for renewed optimism and excitement; a baby could arrive literally at any moment, and the prospective parents start to imagine the day that their family will be complete.
Then the waiting begins, and for some