PARENTING IS NOT A SUPERPOWER The best laid plans of mice and women can fall apart when the realities of life get in the way of being a perfect parent. Go easy on yourself. You're only human after all.
Ihad a good laugh at a friend when she realised out loud that she had bitten off more than she expected to chew when she arrived in Mummy Land. At the time, she was nursing her week-old princess. Of course, I felt compelled to inform her that she was to have many, many more of those “omg!” moments, as well as other times when she would question her efficiency and success as a parent.
I certainly commiserate with all those who ever vowed to be the most perfect parents in the Milky Way. Resolutions to never yell, never miss bedtime, attend every Christmas production, along with a million and one other vows, have often gone the way of broken toys when reality hit. When we fall short of our high ideals, we are guilt-ridden and wonder if our children are negatively affected by our waywardness.
Sigh. I've fallen off the resolution wagon so many times I’m more than qualified to say, ‘hey, it's okay. Don't bash yourself. Give it another go.' Far from being the perfect parent, here's where it's at for me:
behaviour. Connections require quality and quantity time. I'm a hugger so they get lots of hugs and kisses. I spend time talking to each girl alone and together. Every child remembers and treasures most the times spent with their parents. Sometimes all they need is your attention for five minutes to tell you about their day. Grab each moment—the most
precious ones don't come around twice.