‘Deeper’ Sex with Tantra Not all of us may be into spirituality, but if there's a form of sex that increases intimacy and creates a mind-body connection that can lead to powerful orgasms, who wouldn't want to learn more? Any bit of help will do, right? An
Tantric experts believe that if you extend the time and effort you put into sex, you will reach a higher and more intense form of ecstasy. The good news is that tantric sex isn't about getting to the finish line. The trick is to take your mind off your orgasm—I know, I know!—and instead focus on making foreplay enjoyable and rewarding until you're ready to take it to its natural end. This is easier said than done of course, so to delay orgasm, tantric sex experts use a variety of methods including meditative techniques, breath control and massage. Here are a few tips on how you can get started tonight! First, turn down the lights and shut out the rest of the world . . .
LOOSEN YOUR BODY: Tantra is about moving energy through the body, so experts suggest shaking your limbs vigorously to energise and unblock your system before you start.
Your bed will trigger the sleep button in your brain, which means you'll be settling for a quickie instead of a deep connection and loving sex, which is ultimately what Tantra is all about. Try lying down with your partner on the floor and slowly start to touch each other, taking your time to make your way slowly and leisurely around their body.
Try a variety of touches— firm massage, light feathery caresses and gentle stroking. The aim is If you find your mind starting to wander, refocus on your breathing. Inhale as your partner exhales and vice versa—it can help improve the connection between the two of you and keep your mind on what's happening.
If you don't last beyond 10 minutes, try again. Tantric sex takes time to get to grips with because we're all used to sex in a western way—meaning we expect sex to have an obvious start, middle and end.
So take some time to get Tantric, and let me know how it goes!