How stunned were you to discover that 27-year-old St Lucian recording artist Mac 11 was dating a 61-year-old woman? If you were a tad flummoxed you weren’t the only one. But it’s a tale as old as time. (No pun intended.) The concept is known as a May-December romance, where quite simply one partner is in the spring of their life (May), while the other is fast approaching the late stages of winter (December). In more common parlance the woman is termed a cougar, while a man is a sugar-daddy. However in many societies, an older female/younger male relationship tends to be way more frowned upon than their male counterparts. But in recent years women have been bucking the trend and disregarding naysayers. Triple threat entertainer and all around MILF Jennifer Lopez, 45, has been dating 28-year-old dancer Casper Smart since her split from Marc Anthony in 2011. And the queen of the cougars has to be material girl Madonna, 56, who has regularly dated young; her last sharing a 30-year-age gap. But still, 27 and 61? We asked a few guys would you date an older woman and how old are you willing to go? No, she will take my youth. If I did date an older woman we would have to be in the same age group, like in her 30’s but not a 40 year-old. The max is 35. She could have all the riches but I wouldn’t. You know 40 can pass depending on how you look. I mean if you 40 and your belly drop already, no. But of you hold yourself well and look not that old then maybe. – Dalan, 30 Yes I would. But here’s the tricky thing. Typically I would not go anything more than ten years ahead of me but even that is not set in stone because really and truly people nowadays in general are aging differently. So you have older women who are looking very good and still fit and capable of living life. It’s not like all 60-year-olds look like a granny. You have 60-year-olds looking better than 30-year-old women. So all that factors. Even then when I say 10 years older, even that is a stretch of the imagination. I can’t think of someone as far ahead. But there are some women I know who have been at least five years older than me who I have been attracted to. I fact there’s a woman in my class who is ten years older than me. She looks fantastic, pretty, active. So I wouldn’t really put a limit. It depends on the person. – Robert, 34 Oh yeah. It depends on the person to be honest. If you really like the person you can go older but to me 61 is a little too old at that age. That’s older than your mother in some cases. I think if you really like the person, at the end of the day the age is not going to matter. About ten years should be a nice gap so at least you know they’re younger than your mom. You don’t want to bring somebody to your mother and they older than her. But in a situation like that when you meet someone, and you get to know them, age does not become an issue anymore. Still the pressures of society are going to mess with you. You don’t want all your friends telling you you’re with a granny. That might stop you. Especially for fellas. With women it’s probably a little different. They can date an older guy and it wouldn’t be a problem. – Jesse, 27 What do you think? Weigh in on the debate on FB
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