7 things you should be SELF­ISH about in your RELATONSHIP

Re­la­tion­ships are all about com­pro­mise and com­mit­ment, but some­times, it’s re­ally OK to fo­cus on your­self.

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We know we should go the ex­tra mile to make our part­ner feel spe­cial, but be­ing overly self­less isn’t al­ways a good thing. When we give up too much of our­selves in a re­la­tion­ship, we may no longer have any time for the things we en­joy do­ing, or worse, are de­nied the free­dom to stand by the val­ues we be­lieve in and, well, be our­selves. This can make us re­sent­ful and cause us to start sab­o­tag­ing the re­la­tion­ship by pick­ing fights.

By putting some of our needs first, we al­low our­selves to be happy, which will in turn make us bet­ter parters. As Jes­sica Lamb, Psy­chother­a­pist and Founder of Re­la­tion­ship Mat­ters, says: “At times, be­ing self­ish is set­ting bound­aries. It’s say­ing to your part­ner, ‘This is im­por­tant to me and part of who I am, can you ac­cept it and hon­our them?’”

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