Have you ever won­dered… if (and why) guys get jeal­ous when you hang out with an­other guy?

In which we ask three men to get can­did on a very hot topic.

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“It’s im­por­tant that we have that trust. If I feel like I can’t leave her alone with an­other guy and am con­stantly wor­ried about what might hap­pen, it feels like a very un­healthy re­la­tion­ship. The way I see it, we should trust that our girl­friends won’t cheat on us – but if she does, it’s ac­tu­ally a bless­ing in dis­guise. If your girl wants to cheat on you, she’ll even­tu­ally do it, even if you try to stop her from meet­ing that other guy. Per­son­ally, I don’t get jeal­ous when my girl­friend hangs out with other guys, but she’ll have to let me know first.”

“Hon­estly, I think I would be at least a bit jeal­ous. But take it I wouldn’t get jeal­ous if I wasn’t this way: crazy about her.

I might be OK with it if I’ve met the other guy be­fore and she lets me know when­ever they’re meet­ing. Dif­fer­ent cou­ples have dif­fer­ent at­ti­tudes to­wards this, from ‘of course you should trust your part­ner’ to ‘just no’, so I don’t think there’s a hard and fast rule here. For cou­ples go­ing through these is­sues, maybe meet­ing the other party and see­ing for your­self how their friend­ship is purely pla­tonic can help ease your ten­sions. Of course, if you find they’re a bit too close for your com­fort… well, love is never a bed of roses, is it?” “It de­pends. If my girl­friend has been friends with the guy be­fore I be­lieve that just we got to­gether, I wouldn’t mind. be­cause you’re in a re­la­tion­ship, it doesn’t mean you can’t hang out with old friends of the op­po­site sex.

In fact, I wouldn’t even mind if I’m not in­vited along – some­times, you just need to give them space. How­ever, if my girl­friend made a new guy friend dur­ing the course of our re­la­tion­ship, I might be more wary. I would need to get to know the guy first be­fore I’d be com­fort­able with them meet­ing up.”

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