How close you are to your friend is the determining factor on whether you should tell them. But even if it’s your BFF, be sure to not appear judgmental. No one likes to be told that they made a mistake, and well-meaning concern can be taken as an insult.
Sara*, who’s had friends date gold diggers before, says, “I don’t want to see [my friends] get hurt, but if they’re happy, who am I to deny them their happiness?” This is especially true if your friend is in the honeymoon phase. “While you may want to give your two cents’ worth, challenging a friend’s choice of partner too directly can be counterproductive,” says psychologist Anoushka Beh of Abehpsych Counselling. Staging an intervention during this period can elicit an “us against the world” vibe from the couple, pushing them closer together, and pulling your friendship apart.