How to Get Over Fail­ure

Life never goes as planned, but when some­thing goes wrong, you can bounce back with the right tools.

CLEO (Singapore) - - NEWS -

Adult­ing

We’ve all been through those heart-break­ing, gutwrench­ing, life-chang­ing events, and each time, the pain is fresh. So wouldn’t it be great if we could find a way to cope and over­come these trau­matic experiences?

Hav­ing a griev­ing pe­riod when you ex­pe­ri­ence any kind of loss is per­fectly nor­mal – healthy even. But it can be all too easy to sink into a cy­cle of self-doubt. Mis­ery loves com­pany, and we all know that strange feel­ing of com­fort that can be found in self-pity, even when you’re des­per­ately try­ing to pull your­self to­gether.

Generic ad­vice to just “move on” and “snap out of it” never works – you’d ob­vi­ously stop feel­ing this way if you could. For­tu­nately, there’s a more con­struc­tive way to speed up the re­cov­ery process, and it starts with get­ting ac­quainted with the so-called Three P’s of Trauma: Per­son­al­i­sa­tion, Per­va­sive­ness, and Per­ma­nence.

These are the key fac­tors that can stunt a per­son’s abil­ity to get over dis­ap­point­ment. Re­cently, COO of Face­book Sheryl Sand­berg doc­u­mented her ex­pe­ri­ence over­com­ing them in her me­moir Op­tion B. If you can learn to work your way out of the the Ps, you might be able to start feel­ing bet­ter sooner.

In 2015, Face­book COO Sheryl Sand­berg sud­denly lost her hus­band. While it dev­as­tated her, she trans­formed her grief into some­thing she hopes will in­spire oth­ers.

In 1985, Steve Jobs was fired from Ap­ple. Decades later, he said it was the best thing that hap­pened to him.

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