Get the look
A leopard can’t change its spots, but you can.
sure you all remember from Primary 3 science class that, in nature, it is usually the male of the species that has the colourful plumage, long mane and general bio-bling required to attract a mate. So why is it then that it’s the other way around in humans?
Whatever the reason may be, it’s incontestable. But honestly, guys, how long do you spend getting ready before heading out? You probably take a quick glance at your reflection on the back of a dirty spoon and decide: “That’ll do.” Now, unless you are Ryan Gosling, you are sadly, hopelessly and forever wrong. And like it or not, the first impression that we have of people comes from visual cues.
I’m not saying that you should spend a considerable amount of time in front of a mirror preening or evening out your skin tone with foundation, but I have to admit that we ladies like one thing, and that is a guy who makes an effort. I don’t mean going to the barber for a trim and a shave before every date, and then showing up in a freshly pressed Armani suit. But the grunge trend is deader than Kurt Cobain, so throwing on a washing machine-stretched T-shirt is a surefire way to ensure you’ll go home to Madam Palm and her five daughters that night.
Slovenly doesn’t stop at what you wear either. Think Boris Johnson. If you’re on a date or looking for love, the only time that you should have hair that looks like you’ve just come out of a wind tunnel is if you’re doing something fun together, like cycling or parachuting. Otherwise, look groomed—brushes, gel, mousse and wax were invented for a reason.
When it comes to footwear, I concede that you guys have significantly fewer choices than we ladies do. Believe it or not, though, we always notice your shoes. Whether it’s a wingtip or a brogue, a loafer or a sneaker, just make sure it goes with whatever else you’re wearing. And no Crocs. Ever.
I’m sure that you know Crocs are sexual kryptonite. Imagine meeting a girl for the first time and she vomits on you. Then kicks you in the balls. And then says she hates you. That’s the effect Crocs have on women. If you have to err on the side of comfort or are heading to the beach, invest in a nice pair of Birkenstocks or Havaianas. It’ll show that you don’t mind spending on quality, and that you actually have a clue.
One last piece of advice: when in doubt, tone it down. We ladies have a more complex vetting system than what passes muster out in the wild, but we’re also likely to give you (at least) a chance. Having said that, if you’d like to go the whole nine yards, we’re just as happy to be happily surprised.
Words by Tina Wang