Fall in Love


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How did you meet and was it love at first sight?

RACHEL: In church. While I wouldn’t say it was love at first sight, it was def­i­nitely at­trac­tion at first sight! LEO: Hon­estly, I don’t think it’s pos­si­ble to fall in love at first sight. It starts with an at­trac­tion that makes you want to know the per­son more.

What do you guys love about each other?

RACHEL: We are very dif­fer­ent. I tend to be very spon­ta­neous, ex­citable, en­er­getic, and a bit on the ex­treme side. Leo is so calm, it’s very hard to rock his boat. Even if the world were to crum­ble, he’d prob­a­bly be very calm. When I have prob­lems and go to him, he is the peace I need. He is very un­fraz­zled and an­chors me. I think that’s very im­por­tant. He helps me calm down and talk through the is­sues and prob­lems I have at hand in a very sys­tem­atic way. And then I’d re­alise that the prob­lems weren’t as big as I’d thought. LEO: Rachel brings a lot of vi­brancy to my life. It’s like we com­ple­ment each other per­fectly. I don’t show my emo­tions eas­ily and openly, but she has helped make me be­come more ex­pres­sive. She is the light in my life!

RACHEL: I bring a lot of joy and light into his life, and he brings a lot of sta­bil­ity and calm­ness into my life.

When did he pro­pose?

RACHEL: Last Oc­to­ber; af­ter we’d been dat­ing for three years. LEO: It didn’t go as planned at all. Rachel is very in­quis­i­tive. She spoils her own sur­prises! It hap­pened in New York. I’d planned where I wanted to pro­pose, and then thought I’d bet­ter have some back-ups be­cause of how Rachel is. The first place I wanted to pro­pose at was on Bow Bridge in Cen­tral Park that’s been in many movies. But we were there on a week­end and it was packed with tourists. Plan B was Grand Cen­tral Sta­tion. Also al­ways crowded, but I thought it’d be ro­man­tic to pro­pose with a crowd around us. How­ever, an­other cou­ple was al­ready there and do­ing a wed­ding shoot. Plan C didn’t work ei­ther. It was in a restau­rant near The High Line in New York City, but the ta­bles were packed so close to­gether that I couldn’t even go down on one knee!

RACHEL: Leo was very up­set. He’s the type who needs ev­ery­thing to go as planned. In the end, he pro­posed in our ho­tel room, which I thought was per­fect, and what I re­ally wanted – for us to en­joy the mo­ment, so it would al­ways be mean­ing­ful.

What is im­por­tant in a re­la­tion­ship?

LEO: Com­mu­ni­ca­tion. I may take time to re­spond, and it may seem like I pre­fer to be quiet, but I want to re­flect be­fore talk­ing things through. I think it’s cru­cial that both par­ties com­mu­ni­cate all the time and try to fix is­sues they may have. Never leave any­thing un­re­solved as it could blow up in your faces one day.

RACHEL: Un­der­stand­ing. Ini­tially, I didn’t un­der­stand how Leo could go to bed ev­ery time we quar­relled. I’d call and text him fu­ri­ously to in­sist we set­tled it im­me­di­ately. It took me a year to fig­ure out that he is some­one who needs his space in or­der to calm down and clear his mind be­fore talk­ing things through. There were many times we wanted to give up, but what helped us be strong was re­mem­ber­ing how far we’d come and why we re­ally loved each other in the first place. With God at the cen­tre of our re­la­tion­ship, there’s noth­ing we can’t over­come.

What’s your wed­ding go­ing to be like?

LEO: It’ll be in Bali, at the Alila Vil­las in Uluwatu. That’s where we had our first hol­i­day to­gether. It’s go­ing to be an out­door wed­ding over­look­ing the ocean and cliffs, and we chose a breezy time of the year, so the weather won’t be too un­com­fort­able for guests. RACHEL: It’s go­ing to be a cel­e­bra­tion with our clos­est and dear­est.

Any cel­e­bra­tion in Sin­ga­pore?

LEO: We will be hav­ing one for our par­ents. I’m the youngest and the last to marry in my fam­ily.

Mum is 80 and Dad is 78, so they wanted to have a din­ner cel­e­bra­tion. It will be held at the In­tercon­ti­nen­tal Sin­ga­pore as we love the Man Fu Yuan Can­tonese restau­rant there.

So who’s in charge of the prepa­ra­tions?

RACHEL: I ini­tially thought I could do it my­self, but en­gaged a plan­ner in the end. Hon­estly, I’m ter­ri­ble with de­tails and usu­ally very busy.

Were there any dif­fi­cul­ties when it came to hold­ing it in Bali?

RACHEL: We could go ahead and have a sym­bolic cer­e­mony with vows and all, but the big­gest is­sue was not be­ing able to have a civil cer­e­mony and reg­is­ter our mar­riage there. In­stead, we needed to reg­is­ter our mar­riage here first. We also had to fly out just for the food tast­ing. Find­ing a good live band in Bali turned out to be tough, too.

Did you get any plan­ning tips, so you wouldn’t be clue­less?

RACHEL: Friends told me to just make sure I en­joy the day be­cause, ul­ti­mately, it’s for the both of us. Don’t over-stress and let them help by han­dling ev­ery­thing on the big day. Also to spend within our lim­its; save the ex­tra money for a house or the hon­ey­moon. LEO: It’s im­por­tant to have friends you trust to help you with all the small lit­tle things. We are very blessed be­cause we have friends who are will­ing to sac­ri­fice a lot to help us.

Any wishes for the wed­ding day?

RACHEL: We hope all our guests will re­ally en­joy them­selves with us! LEO: I haven’t given it much thought yet. Maybe when it ap­proaches, I might get more ex­cited. I just hope I don’t cry!

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