WHY YOU DON’T ALWAYS HAVE TO PLAY IT COOL
Being “easy to get” (read: readily available) doesn’t mean you’re a pushover. It means you’re not playing games, you’re making decisions on what you want, and you’re down for taking matters into your own hands, say women who put themselves out there.
Being readily available doesn’t mean you’re a pushover.
“I don’t say no when I mean yes”
“When I first met my boyfriend of 10 years, we were classmates who got along well with each other. Whenever he asked me out, I didn’t think twice about saying yes, no matter how frequent the dates were. Dating’s not something you keep a score on. I don’t believe in waiting around and replying to texts hours later just to string him along.” – Lynette*, 28
“I asked him to kiss me”
“I had a friend whom I was into for some time, but he wasn’t taking my hints. So one day, when we were hanging out at his place watching TV, I bit the bullet and asked him to kiss me. He was surprised, but obliged. It must have worked, because soon after, he invited me on a holiday with him and his sister. We ended up dating for two years. It didn’t work out, but I never regretted what I did – at least I tried!” – Tessa*, 29
“I told him I wanted to be with him – but he’d have to wait”
“After just four dates, he asked if we could be exclusive. I was keen, but told him that he’d have to wait as I was still getting over an ex. I knew it was a risk as he might not still be interested when I was ready. But after two months of patience, we got together. While it would have been easier to say yes the first time and seal the deal, I was glad I was honest.” – Mandy*, 25
“I got tired of waiting for him to make things official”
“My now-boyfriend and I started off as good friends. He was so attentive – delivering ice cream and making me gifts for Valentine’s Day – it felt like we were in a relationship, only we never talked about it. It was confusing, and I was getting fed up. When he asked to join me on a solo trip, I snapped and asked him what was going on. Turns out, he was afraid of hurting our friendship. My confrontation motivated him to give a proper relationship a shot.” – Charlotte*, 30