In­di­cat­ing in­ter­est gives him af­fir­ma­tion

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“We feel safe with peo­ple who like us as they are less likely to hurt us,” ex­plains Ping Dong, as­sis­tant pro­fes­sor of mar­ket­ing at North­west­ern Univer­sity in the US. “We are more likely to get re­sources or sup­port, when needed, from them.” No one likes get­ting hurt, so we pre­fer be­ing with those who give us this as­sur­ance. Prof Dong should know – she was one of the PhD stu­dents be­hind a pa­per published by The Chi­nese Univer­sity of Hong Kong in 2014. The study found that be­ing pos­i­tive and re­spon­sive is what boosts our like­abil­ity fac­tor. It ran a se­ries of ex­per­i­ments where sin­gle men went on dates with a woman who ei­ther be­haved in an in­ter­ested man­ner or was de­tached and aloof. The feed­back given was that more men pre­ferred the for­mer. The take­away: be too cool and you’ll scare him away.

Gin­nifer Good­win’s char­ac­ter in He’s Just Not That Into You makes the first move and gets the guy.

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