Got a relationship problem? Our man about town, Jason Godfrey, is here to help.
I’ve been seeing this guy I met on a dating app a few weeks ago. He seems perfectly nice and ticks all the right boxes – he’s considerate, pleasant, and has a good job. Thing is, I’m not feeling the sparks – though I suspect he’s more into it than I am. Should I give him a chance?
Sparks don’t mean anything – unless you want a big, bright, burning fire that you can see from space. Wait! Don’t you want a relationship you can see from space? Lots of relationships start without the sparks, but they can develop over time, contrary to what Hollywood tells you. Give it a go and see what happens – but if the sparks still don’t show, maybe it’s time to move on and find your supernova.
I’ve been trying to meet guys on dating apps like Tinder and Coffee Meets Bagel, but I’m not having a lot of luck. A friend says my profile needs to be more fun. I’m stumped. What do guys want to see on an online dating profile?
Well, first you need to decide what kind of bagel you want to be. Write the dating profile you want to read. If you’re into funny and irreverent, be that. But if you’re really a plain bagel who doesn’t care for all the extras, just own it. Trust me, there are people out there who like plain bagels.
My husband never takes an interest in the stuff I like. He won’t go to plays, museums or exhibitions, because he thinks they’re boring. But I’m always making the effort to do stuff that he likes with him – even when it’s not something I love. How do I get him to see that it’s not so much about what we do and more about spending time with each other?
Maybe you should stop doing such boring stuff. I joke, I joke! Seriously, though, you deserve to have him return the favour. Maybe the first step is to find a play or museum exhibition that would interest him. Once he’s eased into it and appears to be enjoying himself, go for the jugular – tell him how much you appreciate his efforts and are enjoying his company. Hopefully, there’s a history-of-videogaming exhibition coming to a museum near you. Good luck.
It’s great that you’re enjoying yourself, but what about me?