SHOW YOUR ARDOUR
It wasn’t too long ago that the ladies were atwitter with the revelations espoused by the book and movie of the same title He’s Just Not That Into You. And the common consensus was that men were cads for not being able to tell the truth about our feelings, and for wasting women’s time. Maybe there were some truisms from the Greg Behrendt novel (I didn’t watch the movie; flicks are usually never as good as the books from which they were spawned). But one thought that crossed my mind post-read: Aren’t ladies scared off when he is into them?
Here’s my gripe: Women don’t fall for the nice guy! (Read the research on page 24.) The man who sends love letters and sonnets, provides a shoulder to cry on when they sob over yet another ass who loves em’ and leaves em’ – he ends up falling into the dreaded “friendzone”, an abyss that very few can crawl out of.
So we learn. We stop being so nice, start to read books like TheGame by Neil Strauss, and learn how to play the bad boy – and stop being so available and giving vibes of being needy. True enough, when we play our cards right, women come running.
The trouble is this attitude sucks. It’s a slippery slope from pretending we don’t care to genuinely becoming less concerned with the emotional needs of the fairer sex. And the facts show that the ladies can’t really tell beyond our poker faces, according to research from the University of Texas, which reveals they tend to underestimate our interest in them.
In this issue, we’ve worked hard to make sure this doesn’t happen to your lady love this Valentine’s Day. Check out our tips on how to impress her with a magic trick (page 32), the right recipe for a dinner that works for both your love life and your waistline (page 108) and how to pull off the right boudoir attire to get her in the mood (page 68).
Have a great Feb 14, guys!