Is Her O All For Show?

YOU MAY THINK SHE’S HAV­ING AS GREAT A TIME AS YOU, BUT EV­ERY­ONE CAN FAKE AN EX­PRES­SION. SCIENCE GIVES US THE NUM­BERS ON WHEN FAKE OR­GASMS OC­CUR MORE FRE­QUENTLY FROM WOMEN.

Men's Health (Singapore) - - NEWS -

SSure, she rolled up her eyes, maybe even moaned a cou­ple times – but how true are her ex­pres­sions? While pre­vi­ous re­search sug­gests that most women fake or­gasms at least some of the time, it still nagged us when they ac­tu­ally fake them.

Now, we fi­nally con­firm our nag­ging sus­pi­cions: 68 per­cent of women ad­mit­ted to fak­ing an or­gasm in a new (un­sci­en­tific) sur­vey of 2,000 men and women from DrEd.com.

Her re­la­tion­ship status might in­flu­ence whether she’s play­ing pre­tend: 60 per­cent of women re­ported fak­ing an or­gasm in a new or long-term re­la­tion­ship, while only 40 per­cent faked it dur­ing a one-night stand or af­ter mar­riage. Which made us won­der: Why would women be less likely to fake it in a hook-up, where the sex was prob­a­bly rushed? And af­ter set­tling down, when things might tend to get less ad­ven­tur­ous in bed? So we asked a cou­ple of ex­perts on fe­male or­gasm.

First, un­der­stand that she’s not putting on a show to make you feel in­com­pe­tent. Women of­ten fake or­gasms be­cause they’re try­ing to please or im­press you, says sex and mar­riage ther­a­pist Moushumi Ghose, au­thor of

Clas­sic Po­si­tions Reinvented.

But in a one-night stand, she prob­a­bly doesn’t feel that same pres­sure be­cause you’re ba­si­cally strangers, so “per­form­ing” an or­gasm isn’t re­ally worth it, be­cause boost­ing your self­es­teem isn’t as im­por­tant to her as it would be in a new or longterm re­la­tion­ship, says Robin Mil­hausen, a pro­fes­sor of fam­ily re­la­tions and hu­man sex­u­al­ity at the Uni­ver­sity of Guelph.

And even though sex might not be as hot or fre­quent af­ter ty­ing the knot, you’re more likely to know ex­actly what gets her off once you’ve been mar­ried a while, Moushumi says. That may make her or­gasms more fre­quent, which means she doesn’t need to fake it.

Plus, when you’re mar­ried, she knows you’ll have plenty of chances to take another crack at it – mean­ing she’s less likely to en­cour­age tech­niques that don’t re­ally get the job done for her, Prof Mil­hausen adds.

Things are dif­fer­ent when you first com­mit to one another. She’s try­ing to make things work, Moushumi ex­plains, so she might fake it in the be­gin­ning to spare your feel­ings – un­til sex be­comes more com­fort­able.

Once you’ve been dat­ing for a few years, and the hon­ey­moon phase is long gone, there may be times she just wants to “get it over with” when she’s stressed or not in the mood, which is com­mon for a lot of women, Moushumi says.

But be­fore your ego takes another hit, here’s a stat that will make you feel bet­ter: When women were asked how of­ten they faked or­gasms dur­ing sex­ual en­coun­ters, 66 per­cent of them re­ported never or rarely fak­ing or­gasms. So while she may have feigned a few moans in the past, she’s not con­stantly ly­ing about get­ting off in most cases.

So even if you do catch her fak­ing it, re­mem­ber that reach­ing cli­max takes more time for women. Make an ef­fort to be hon­est with her if you feel like she’s not sat­is­fied. Talk­ing about sex and what she likes in bed can make the ex­pe­ri­ence bet­ter for the both of you, says Moushumi.

Women of­ten fake or­gasms be­cause they’re try­ing to please or im­press you.

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