Guide to attending a party
Just as there are certain things you should observe as a host, there are codes of behaviour you should adhere to if you wish to be a good and courteous guest. Here are some tips you should follow when attending a party hosted by a friend.
Itʼs remarkably annoying for any host if you do not confirm your attendance but turn up unannounced at the last minute. This is especially so if itʼs a sit-down event. It is only polite to call or email your host to let them know if you are able to attend, or if you will be arriving late. If you are turning up much later, give the host a ring to offer to pick up supplies on the way.
What is just as impolite is turning up with additional guests. Always ask your host if it is all right to bring a friend or two along to the party. If the answer is no, for any reason, you shouldn’t impose.
Never turn up empty-handed. Make sure you show up with something that the host will appreciate and can use, such as a bottle of wine or whisky, or food that he or she can serve easily. If you are bringing food, find out what your host would like to have.
DO NOT HOG THE BAR
Unless you are offering to help serve up drinks for the party, hogging the bar is a crude way of getting wasted. Never hold on to a bottle or spend the entire time at the bar ordering drinks
Have a Standard
It is tacky to bring a bottle of the least expensive wine in the house when going to a party, and it also shows your host just what you think of the invite. Pick out a proper bottle that he or she will appreciate, that he can use immediately to add to the party (i.e. chilled and ready for pouring).
for yourself. A party is for mingling, so circulate and get to know new people. Otherwise, you can always head out to the pub for a drink on your own.
Itʼs definitely more comfortable to stay among friends and chat about the usual stuff, but you ʼre missing out on the fun part of a party, which is to meet new people. Join other groups that you are not familiar with, and ask if itʼs all right for you to join in. Introduce yourself and carry on from there. Never insinuate yourself into a group simply by hovering on the edge and jumping into the conversation abruptly, especially if they are speaking about a topic that is private.
Follow the dress code. You donʼt want to turn up at a party in slacks and a T-shirt when everyone else is dressed up for cocktails. That is disrespectful to the host and shows you didnʼt pay attention to the invite. You can always be over dressed but you should never be under dressed. If you know that you are coming from work (or elsewhere) and will not be looking your sharpest, inform the host prior and apologise.
NEVER GET DRUNK
Know your limits and stick with them. Manage yourself and other friends by alternating between non-alcoholic and alcoholic drinks so that you are not intoxicated and can depart sober, without offending the host or any of his guests. If you think you have had too much to drink, ask if thereʼs a private place where you can sober up or if you can leave the party early.
ASKING SOMEONE OUT
If you have met someone at the party that you like, donʼt hit on them right there and then. Instead, ask your host if he or she could make an introduction after the party and proceed from there. It prevents awkward exchanges at the party.
KNOW WHEN IT’S TIME TO LEAVE
You should always know when the party is coming to a conclusion, and depart politely after thanking the host. Be observant and know when your host is ready to call it an evening. That way you can facilitate by suggesting to the other attendees that itʼs time to go. Offer to help clean up if you think itʼs appropriate, but if your host says no, just offer your thanks and leave before he has to kick you out.