Why make-up sex can be amaz­ing

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THERE’S AN IN­TEN­SITY THAT JUST MIGHT BE WORTH THE FIGHT YOU HAD, EX­PERTS SAY. HERE’S WHY.

You both want to get wilder

Af­ter an ar­gu­ment, your emo­tions are run­ning high, says Kim­berly Sharky, a cer­ti­fied sex ther­a­pist in the US. That en­ergy car­ries over into the bed­room. “Dur­ing make-up sex, peo­ple tend to be more ag­gres­sive or pas­sion­ate than usual, which can be very ex­cit­ing,” she says.

You’re al­ready primed for ac­tion

Phys­i­o­log­i­cally, anger is pretty close to de­sire. When you’re up­set, your heart rate is up, your blood is pump­ing, and you’re in a height­ened state of arousal, ex­plains mar­riage ther­a­pist Neil Rosen­thal, the au­thor of Love, Sex and Stay­ing Warm: Keep­ing the Flame Alive. “Then, when you have sex, you ex­pe­ri­ence a huge release.”

Those bond­ing hor­mones kick in

Af­ter sex, your brain is flooded with oxy­tocin, a hor­mone that promotes feel­ings of love and to­geth­er­ness. This en­cour­ages you to move past lin­ger­ing anger and re­sent­ment. “Sex helps peo­ple feel cared for, de­sired and con­nected,” Neil says. “With make-up sex, there’s a sense of re­lief and res­o­lu­tion. It’s like you’re both say­ing ‘Okay, we’re a couple again’.”

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