MAKE IT WORK

Strong re­la­tion­ships are built on com­mit­ment, love, and a good sense of hu­mour. What’s the se­cret to a last­ing mar­riage? This Valen­tine’s Day, the women here share what it re­ally takes to keep the spark alive.

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“NEVER YELL AT EACH OTHER – UN­LESS DIN­NER IS READY!” MAR­RIED FOR 27 YEARS WITH TWO KIDS

“Be kind, be pa­tient and be lov­ing in good times. Be thank­ful, be for­giv­ing and be help­ful in bad times.” MAR­RIED FOR 28 YEARS WITH ONE KID

“Trust and respect are es­sen­tial for keep­ing the mar­riage healthy. This means be­ing able to com­mu­ni­cate about any­thing and ev­ery­thing with each other - in­clud­ing voic­ing out your needs and dis­likes.” MAR­RIED FOR 37 YEARS WITH THREE KIDS

De­vote your time and en­ergy to con­tin­u­ously im­prove your re­la­tion­ship. Your part­ner is your buddy, so com­mit to en­gag­ing each other through en­rich­ing ex­pe­ri­ences – be it travel, food or work­outs!” MAR­RIED FOR 10 YEARS

“Fight and love with equal pas­sion as you are ar­gu­ing to bet­ter each other and your­selves as a cou­ple. Be each other’s worst critic and best friend.” MAR­RIED FOR 10 YEARS WITH TWO KIDS

“Make it a pri­or­ity to spend qual­ity time with each other once a week – es­pe­cially if you are both work­ing, and spend lots of time apart or in the of­fice. Even a meal to­gether or a walk in the park will work won­ders. This keeps the love alive.” MAR­RIED FOR 39 YEARS

“Re­mem­ber that you don’t need a rea­son to say ‘I love you’. It’s a sim­ple but mean­ing­ful way to let your spouse know that he or she is on your mind through­out the day. MAR­RIED FOR TWO YEARS

“BE­ING IS MORE KIND IMPORTANT THAN AL­WAYS BE­ING RIGHT.” MAR­RIED FOR FOUR AND A HALF YEARS WITH ONE KID

“It’s important to re­mem­ber and show that you care for your hus­band, and not let the chil­dren’s needs take pri­or­ity over ev­ery­thing.” MAR­RIED FOR 15 YEARS WITH THREE KIDS

“HAVE RE­AL­IS­TIC EX­PEC­TA­TIONS OF YOUR MAR­RIAGE AND PART­NER - AND WATCH FEWER RO­MAN­TIC MOVIES!” MAR­RIED FOR FOUR YEARS WITH ONE KID

“Take cou­ple hol­i­days with­out the kids to un­wind and recharge. And make sure you and your hubby use sep­a­rate blan­kets at home so you don’t ac­cuse each other of steal­ing them when it gets cold.” MAR­RIED FOR 15 YEARS WITH TWO KIDS

“Al­ways be the first to say ‘I’m sorry’.” MAR­RIED FOR FOUR YEARS

“Don’t hold on to grudges. Seek to un­der­stand your part­ner and give more than you ex­pect to re­ceive.” MAR­RIED FOR 28 YEARS

“YOU DON’T AL­WAYS NEED TO HAVE THE LAST WORD. IT’S RE­ALLY OKAY.” MAR­RIED FOR 10 YEARS WITH TWO KIDS

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