Is It Okay to Tell Your Kids White Lies?

Simply Her (Singapore) - - Kids -

Chil­dren may not yet be able to grasp cer­tain con­cepts, so ly­ing to get them to do some­thing or to pro­tect their in­no­cence is gen­er­ally ac­cepted. But Dr Lim Boon Leng, psy­chi­a­trist and med­i­cal di­rec­tor from Dr BL Lim Cen­tre For Psy­cho­log­i­cal Well­ness at Gle­nea­gles Med­i­cal Cen­tre, sug­gests the fol­low­ing:

1 Con­sider your child’s age and ma­tu­rity level. Tai­lor the white lie to your child’s sit­u­a­tion and re­mem­ber that even­tu­ally, you will have to tell him the truth. For ex­am­ple, when ex­plain­ing sex to a young child, it’s fine to talk about the birds and the bees, but when he is older, you may want to sit him down and tell him what re­ally hap­pens dur­ing the act.

2 Don’t avoid ad­dress­ing dif­fi­cult is­sues. “If you use white lies to avoid th­ese is­sues, it may be detri­men­tal to your chil­dren,” Dr Lim ex­plains. “Your chil­dren may find your white lies silly and lose trust in you. Even worse, they may try to learn the truth from un­re­li­able sources like their friends or the In­ter­net.”

3 Don’t play too much on their fears. It’s not a good way to man­age their be­hav­iour – such white lies may re­sult in your lit­tle one de­vel­op­ing pho­bias and anx­i­ety prob­lems.

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