What if you have dif­fer­ent love lan­guages?

Simply Her (Singapore) - - Parents 101 -

It doesn’t mat­ter, says An­drew Chow, an En­nea­gram per­son­al­ity coach, as long as you make an ef­fort to un­der­stand and reach out to the other per­son. “If you want to build rap­port with some­one, you need to know what makes them tick. Love lan­guages work the same way.”

Fric­tion and mis­un­der­stand­ings can hap­pen when you im­pose your love lan­guage on oth­ers. “Your needs will only be met with your own love lan­guage, so com­mu­ni­cate that to your loved one clearly. But if they show love in other lan­guages, you should ex­plain that it doesn’t mean you don’t ap­pre­ci­ate them,” ex­plains An­drew. That way, they don’t feel re­jected and hurt.

So, if you buy ex­pen­sive gifts for your par­ents but they re­act by chid­ing you over the cost, don’t be of­fended, says An­drew. “It’s a par­ent thing be­cause they don’t want their chil­dren to spend so much. By nag­ging you about how ex­pen­sive the gifts are, they’re say­ing that they ap­pre­ci­ate their value – it’s an­other way of say­ing ‘Thank you’.”

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