too busy, so much so that we feel compelled to fill every pocket of time with activity. It’s as if we aren’t making complete use of our day if we don’t plug the void – and that we are less of a success because of it.
I’m like that. I fill my days with activity. Even my quiet moments are busy, filled with story ideas, plans, bits of writing I do in my head, mental reminders, personal pep talks, you name it.
But I truly understood the need for just being when a personal setback struck a few months ago. To cope, I did the only thing I knew – I filled my days with activity. But those were only distractions, and fleeting at that.
In the end, it was the little unforeseen moments that became my undoing. I’d be having lunch and then start crying into my sandwich. I’d be walking my daughter to her school bus and big, heaving sobs would start. I felt fragile and out of control.
My doctor told me to seek solace in silence and just let the tears flow. I figured that since nothing else seemed to be working, I’d try it. At first, the silent moments were filled with heartbreak. But things did get better. Some days, the tears didn’t come and I’d feel at peace. On days when I was feeling emotional, I’d let things be. It’s helped.
I’ve realised that you don’t have to encounter tragedy to understand the need for silence. I think I’ve always needed it, but was just too caught up with everything else to focus on it. It’s exactly when you feel that you’re losing control, and that life is passing you by, that it becomes even more important to find the time to just breathe – and escape into your little own world.
To help you carve out more of these moments, we’ve put together a slew of stories to help you make the most of your day. On pages 20 and 34, give your outfits and makeup an instant update with our pick of the season’s loveliest looks. To save you the trouble of planning your family’s meals, we have a ready menu of at least three weeks’ worth of dishes (pg 102).
One of the things I find more time-consuming is shopping. It’s not that I don’t know what I want, it’s that I can never be sure that the shops I’m walking into will have them. So don’t miss our big feature on page 94 for great finds in fashion, beauty, kitchen essentials, kids’ toys and books.
Other stories you shouldn’t miss this month: We look at the five ways people express love for one another, and talk to women and their parents about which “love language” they use (pg 130). And with year-end exams looming, we’ve come up with suggestions on where you can take your kids so they can blow off some steam during the September holidays (pg 124). Enjoy! Dressing up in green – one of my fave colours
Wearing thin black eyeliner – great if you’re in a hurry (pg 34). Going guiltfree – bake a healthy mooncake