WORK

Top 10 lessons from Face­book COO Sh­eryl Sand­berg’s best-sell­ing book, Lean In.

Simply Her (Singapore) - - Contents -

• FAKE IT TILL YOU FEEL IT.

For days when you feel far from con­fi­dent, Sand­berg sug­gests adopt­ing a “power pose” – spread your feet and place your hands on your hips. Power pos­ing in­creases your dom­i­nance hor­mone lev­els (testos­terone) and low­ers your stress hor­mone lev­els (cor­ti­sol), mak­ing you feel more pow­er­ful.

• PUT YOUR HAND UP. SPEAK UP.

Don’t wait for op­por­tu­ni­ties to be of­fered. Seize them – even if you’re un­sure of your abil­i­ties. Jump in and learn as you go.

• FIND SUP­PORT IN YOUR SPOUSE.

Sand­berg be­lieves it’s im­por­tant for hus­bands to split do­mes­tic du­ties 50-50 with their wives. In do­ing so, they lessen the load at home – al­low­ing you to have the time and en­ergy you need to achieve your ca­reer goals. Dis­cuss your pri­or­i­ties and the po­ten­tial trade-offs with your hus­band, then come up with an ar­range­ment that suits you both.

• DON’T LET FEAR IN­FLU­ENCE YOUR DE­CI­SIONS.

Courage will get you places you never dreamt you could reach. Don’t pre­vent your­self from at­tempt­ing some­thing new be­cause you’re afraid to fail. Don’t be afraid of mak­ing the wrong choices. Don’t be afraid of not be­ing liked. And don’t be afraid to be am­bi­tious and to want more for your­self.

• DON’T DOWN­PLAY YOUR SUC­CESS.

When Forbes ranked Sand­berg the fifth most pow­er­ful woman in the world in 2011, she said she felt “em­bar­rassed and ex­posed”. It took a con­ver­sa­tion with her ex­ec­u­tive as­sis­tant, Camille, for her to re­alise that she had a lot to be proud of and grate­ful for, and she ought to be flat­tered in­stead of feel­ing in­se­cure about the ac­knowl­edge­ment. She ad­mits that she should have just said a sim­ple “thank you” when the list came out.

• PER­FEC­TION IS UNATTAIN­ABLE.

“Done is bet­ter than per­fect” is one of Sand­berg’s favourite mot­toes. She says that too many women strive for per­fec­tion in ev­ery area of their lives, thereby hold­ing them­selves to unattain­able stan­dards.

• SPEAK YOUR TRUTH. AND ADD A BIT OF HU­MOUR IF YOU NEED TO.

Truth is bet­ter served by us­ing sim­ple lan­guage, Sand­berg writes. Avoid of­fice-speak, which can bury the point you’re try­ing to make. And if you want re­sults, it doesn’t hurt to de­liver your mes­sage with hu­mour and good-na­tured­ness.

• ASK FOR AD­VICE AND FEED­BACK.

Know­ing where you’ve gone wrong and how you can im­prove is im­por­tant for build­ing a suc­cess­ful ca­reer. Don’t be afraid of hear­ing the truth from peo­ple you work with. In fact, ask them for their hon­est opin­ions.

• DON’T LOOK FOR A MEN­TOR. AT­TRACT ONE.

You can do this sim­ply by ex­celling at your job. When you have the best ideas and show a will­ing­ness to learn and put in the ef­fort, your higher-up will be drawn to you and will want to share his or her ad­vice and ex­pe­ri­ence with you.

• YOU CAN’T HAVE OR DO IT ALL. AND THAT’S OKAY.

“Hav­ing it all” is a myth, says Sand­berg. In­stead, she urges us to re­de­fine our idea of suc­cess and aim for a life that is sus­tain­able and ful­fill­ing. It’s all about mak­ing the best choices you can – and ac­cept­ing them.

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