“Appoint a person-incharge who’s decisive, rational and can function amid the family’s grief.”
• Settling open accounts Ask your parents where they keep all their legal and financial documents so you can manage them on their behalf after they’ve passed on. These include memberships, utilities, bank accounts, insurance and credit card bills, says Winnie. “Reassure them by saying: ‘Mum/Dad, I’m not trying to cheat you of your money. I’m only looking out for your interests.’” • Appointing a “grief” committee When your parents pass away, it’ll be difficult to collect your thoughts and see to practical matters, like funeral arrangements. Winnie suggests gathering a few close relatives to form a committee to handle it. “Appoint a person-in-charge who’s decisive, rational and can function amid the family’s grief. And have a list of delegated tasks to work through.”
Other end-of-life issues you need to keep in mind. • How your parents wish to spend their last days If they’re dying of an illness, Winnie says you should ask them if they wish to remain in hospital or be brought home (if they have the option), and who they’d like to visit them – people to say their goodbyes and thankyous to. You should also consider how to have proper home care for them, if needed.