“Ap­point a per­son-in­charge who’s de­ci­sive, ra­tio­nal and can func­tion amid the fam­ily’s grief.”

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• Set­tling open ac­counts Ask your par­ents where they keep all their le­gal and fi­nan­cial documents so you can man­age them on their be­half af­ter they’ve passed on. These in­clude mem­ber­ships, util­i­ties, bank ac­counts, in­sur­ance and credit card bills, says Win­nie. “Re­as­sure them by say­ing: ‘Mum/Dad, I’m not try­ing to cheat you of your money. I’m only look­ing out for your in­ter­ests.’” • Ap­point­ing a “grief” com­mit­tee When your par­ents pass away, it’ll be dif­fi­cult to col­lect your thoughts and see to prac­ti­cal mat­ters, like fu­neral ar­range­ments. Win­nie sug­gests gath­er­ing a few close rel­a­tives to form a com­mit­tee to han­dle it. “Ap­point a per­son-in-charge who’s de­ci­sive, ra­tio­nal and can func­tion amid the fam­ily’s grief. And have a list of del­e­gated tasks to work through.”

Other end-of-life is­sues you need to keep in mind. • How your par­ents wish to spend their last days If they’re dy­ing of an ill­ness, Win­nie says you should ask them if they wish to re­main in hospi­tal or be brought home (if they have the op­tion), and who they’d like to visit them – people to say their good­byes and thanky­ous to. You should also con­sider how to have proper home care for them, if needed.

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