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the wildly en­ter­tain­ing, yet im­mensely pro­found, con­ver­sa­tions I have with my sec­ond child, Maddy, on my Face­book page. She may be just five, but her ob­ser­va­tions about people and life give me much food for thought.

Here’s a favourite of mine: Maddy: “You must be kind and gen­er­ous to the people you love.” Me: “What about the people you don’t love?” Maddy: “You must be kind and gen­er­ous to them, too. Other­wise, they will do bad things.”

Her ob­ser­va­tions come out of the blue, and oc­ca­sion­ally, in un­ex­pected places – like the time we were in a pub­lic wash­room to­gether. Just be­fore I unlocked our cu­bi­cle door, she reached into the toi­let roll dis­penser and rolled out a sec­tion of paper, leav­ing it hang­ing. See­ing my ques­tion­ing look, she ex­plained: “It will be eas­ier for the next per­son to take the toi­let paper.”

In that one small act of thought­ful­ness, my lit­tle girl taught me about con­sid­er­a­tion, kind­ness and lov­ing one’s neigh­bour. I’ve rolled out sec­tions of toi­let paper ever since.

My daugh­ter’s ob­ser­va­tions about the world hum­ble me. As a mum, I al­ways thought I was the one rais­ing my kids. But lit­tle by lit­tle, my chil­dren are rais­ing me, too – in their re­minders of what’s right and wrong, what’s funny and fun­nier, and how prob­lems can be solved in sim­ple ways.

So I’ve de­cided to stop think­ing that I know more about life than my kids. I may have more ex­pe­ri­ence, but I may not al­ways know bet­ter. Turn to page 54 to see what your kids can teach you ev­ery day – they’re our per­sonal life coaches! – from how to say no, to how to love whole­heart­edly, and more.

Other sto­ries you shouldn’t miss this month: Choose the right foun­da­tion to look dif­fer­ent ev­ery day (pg 28). If you’ve been let­ting your fi­nan­cial fears keep you from mak­ing bet­ter money de­ci­sions, our ex­perts have tips to help you (pg 64). And, don’t for­get your mum this Mother’s Day – turn to page 36 for our pick of pam­per­ing treat­ments you can do with her. A happy Mother’s Day to all mums!

PS. Thanks for all your lovely letters. E-mail us at magsim­ply­her@sph.com.sg or write to us at 82 Gent­ing Lane, Me­dia Cen­tre Level 7, S(349567), and keep send­ing in your won­der­ful ideas. Giv­ing my­self

a high-tea treat – just me and a good book. Pg 108

Decor­bombed in my of­fice on my birth­day by

the team!

PENE­LOPE CHAN, EDI­TOR

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