Teach Them to Navigate Life
It’s necessary to teach your kids not to let themselves be taken advantage of. “In Asian culture, being ‘nice’ means you’re too paiseh (embarrassed) to stand up for yourself. While I want Sage and Jonas to cultivate kindness and compassion, I don’t tell them to be ‘good’ or ‘nice’. I tell them not to take things personally and to tell it like it is,” she says.
“When Jonas was about six, a bully in his class targeted him. One day, he came home with a bloody eye because the boy had thrown something at his face. I asked him why he hadn’t mentioned anything to me. And he said: ‘I could have hit him back. But I didn’t want to hurt him.’ I commended him on his kindness but told him that he needed to know when to make someone understand that their behaviour isn’t right.”