Teach Them to Nav­i­gate Life

Simply Her (Singapore) - - Osim Special -

It’s nec­es­sary to teach your kids not to let them­selves be taken ad­van­tage of. “In Asian cul­ture, be­ing ‘nice’ means you’re too paiseh (em­bar­rassed) to stand up for yourself. While I want Sage and Jonas to cul­ti­vate kind­ness and com­pas­sion, I don’t tell them to be ‘good’ or ‘nice’. I tell them not to take things per­son­ally and to tell it like it is,” she says.

“When Jonas was about six, a bully in his class tar­geted him. One day, he came home with a bloody eye be­cause the boy had thrown some­thing at his face. I asked him why he hadn’t men­tioned any­thing to me. And he said: ‘I could have hit him back. But I didn’t want to hurt him.’ I com­mended him on his kind­ness but told him that he needed to know when to make some­one un­der­stand that their be­hav­iour isn’t right.”

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