Help Your Fam­ily Ad­just

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Man­age per­sonal mat­ters while at work: Un­til they ad­just bet­ter to your ab­sence, your kids or helper are likely to call you of­ten in the day. If you’re in a meet­ing, ex­cuse yourself to take the call and keep it short. Re­as­sure your boss that the calls won’t af­fect your work. You should also call home dur­ing the day to check on ev­ery­one.

It’s use­ful to have a con­tin­gency plan for when your kids fall sick – speak to your em­ployer about flex­i­ble work­ing ar­range­ments in such a sit­u­a­tion. Pri­ori­tise your fam­ily and your well­be­ing: If you take work home, do it af­ter your kids are in bed, and only af­ter you’ve had some alone time with Hubby. Your fam­ily’s well-be­ing should be your main pri­or­ity. Have some me time: Be kind to yourself. Take the time to cen­tre yourself and to recharge. That way, you can give your hus­band and chil­dren the at­ten­tion they de­serve when you’re home, and will also be able to han­dle what­ever your job throws at you. The tran­si­tion may be hard on your hubby and kids too, but there are ways to make it more bear­able. Be up­front with your kids: Talk to them about why re­turn­ing to work is im­por­tant to you and the fam­ily, tell them about your new job, and make plans for the weekend with them so you all have some­thing to look for­ward to. Also ex­plain that, like them, you may have “home­work” to do when you get home.

Your kids are prob­a­bly used to be­ing able to talk to you any­time at home but now make it clear that they should call you only dur­ing your lunch break or if it’s ur­gent. Keep the peace at home: With­out you at home to play ref­eree, it’s more im­por­tant than ever for your kids to try to get along. Tell them that you don’t have the time to han­dle petty quar­rels while you’re at work and ex­plain the im­por­tance of them solv­ing their squab­bles on their own. Give your helper, par­ents or in-laws clear in­struc­tions on how to break up fights or dis­ci­pline a naughty child. Make time for Hubby: Now that you’re dou­bly busy, you don’t want your hus­band to feel ne­glected or ig­nored. Plan date nights, meet for lunch oc­ca­sion­ally, and check in on each other dur­ing the day.

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