Help Your Family Adjust
Manage personal matters while at work: Until they adjust better to your absence, your kids or helper are likely to call you often in the day. If you’re in a meeting, excuse yourself to take the call and keep it short. Reassure your boss that the calls won’t affect your work. You should also call home during the day to check on everyone.
It’s useful to have a contingency plan for when your kids fall sick – speak to your employer about flexible working arrangements in such a situation. Prioritise your family and your wellbeing: If you take work home, do it after your kids are in bed, and only after you’ve had some alone time with Hubby. Your family’s well-being should be your main priority. Have some me time: Be kind to yourself. Take the time to centre yourself and to recharge. That way, you can give your husband and children the attention they deserve when you’re home, and will also be able to handle whatever your job throws at you. The transition may be hard on your hubby and kids too, but there are ways to make it more bearable. Be upfront with your kids: Talk to them about why returning to work is important to you and the family, tell them about your new job, and make plans for the weekend with them so you all have something to look forward to. Also explain that, like them, you may have “homework” to do when you get home.
Your kids are probably used to being able to talk to you anytime at home but now make it clear that they should call you only during your lunch break or if it’s urgent. Keep the peace at home: Without you at home to play referee, it’s more important than ever for your kids to try to get along. Tell them that you don’t have the time to handle petty quarrels while you’re at work and explain the importance of them solving their squabbles on their own. Give your helper, parents or in-laws clear instructions on how to break up fights or discipline a naughty child. Make time for Hubby: Now that you’re doubly busy, you don’t want your husband to feel neglected or ignored. Plan date nights, meet for lunch occasionally, and check in on each other during the day.