Make sure all of your child’s Face­book friends are people he knows – and has met per­son­ally.

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3 “DO YOU OF­TEN SHARE PHO­TOS AND VIDEOS ON FACE­BOOK?” Make sure your child un­der­stands that what­ever he posts may be stored on­line per­ma­nently. It could land on a search en­gine and af­fect his fu­ture – for ex­am­ple, his abil­ity to get a schol­ar­ship or a job when he is older.

Post­ing pho­tos all the time could be a warn­ing sign that he’s spend­ing too much time on­line or is un­able to so­cialise out­side of Face­book. 4 “HOW OF­TEN DO YOU CHECK YOUR FACE­BOOK AC­COUNT?” A “fear of miss­ing out” is what drives many young people to check their Face­book ac­counts fre­quently through­out the day. The prob­lem here is that your child may be pri­ori­tis­ing Face­book over more im­por­tant ac­tiv­i­ties. Plus, the more of­ten he logs on, the more he’s at risk of cy­ber-bul­ly­ing.

Cre­ate bound­aries by giv­ing him set times to get on Face­book – for ex­am­ple, af­ter fin­ish­ing his home­work – and by dis­al­low­ing smart­phones, lap­tops and tablets in his bed­room at night. him more likely to open up if he’s ever cy­ber-bul­lied.

“Friends of friends” means that each friend’s friend can see what you post. So if your child has 50 friends and each of those friends has 50 friends, then that’s 2,500 more people who can see what he has posted. Ex­plain this and dis­cuss the pos­si­ble neg­a­tive con­se­quences of 2,500 people be­ing privy to his pro­file, per­sonal in­for­ma­tion and pho­tos. 7 “DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE RE­STRICTED LIST IS FOR?” It’s not likely that he’d know. In Face­book, you can as­sign friends to spe­cific lists you cre­ate. When you post some­thing, you se­lect which list sees that post.

One handy list is the re­stricted list, which is for friends who can only see pro­file in­for­ma­tion and posts that you’ve cho­sen to make pub­lic. By cre­at­ing it, your child can still look cool by hav­ing many friends, but he can make sure the people he doesn’t re­ally know can­not see any­thing he posts pri­vately. 10 “HAVE YOU EVER SEEN SOME­ONE GET BUL­LIED ON FACE­BOOK?” This gets your child to talk about people he knows who may have been bul­lied, and opens the lines of com­mu­ni­ca­tion so that if he ever gets cy­ber-bul­lied, he will go to you for help rather than try to cope on his own.

Fol­low up this ques­tion with: “What do you think cy­ber-bul­ly­ing is, and what do you do if some­one bul­lies you on­line?” Make sure that your child un­der­stands what con­sti­tutes on­line bul­ly­ing and dis­cuss how it can af­fect his life.

Typ­i­cal signs of be­ing bul­lied in­clude a re­luc­tance to go to school, fall­ing be­hind in school­work, be­com­ing with­drawn or ag­gres­sive, feel­ing anx­ious while on­line, be­com­ing de­pressed, an­gry or frus­trated af­ter us­ing the com­puter, mood swings, and sud­denly be­com­ing un­in­ter­ested in on­line ac­tiv­i­ties. You may want to ask your child if he’s ever felt this way, to get some clues about whether or not he’s been a vic­tim.

“DO YOU KNOW WHAT PHO­TOS WE SHOULD AND SHOULDN’T POST?” Ex­plain that you’d like his opin­ion on which pho­tos are ac­cept­able and which are not. Ask to look through his and your Face­book pho­tos to­gether. When view­ing the pho­tos, look out for any of kids in swimwear, and iden­ti­fiers such as car reg­is­tra­tion plates, school uni­forms and school build­ings.

Dis­cuss why some pho­tos might threaten his safety more than oth­ers. For ex­am­ple, seem­ingly whole­some pic­tures of kids in swim­suits may get into the wrong hands and be dis­trib­uted on child porn web­sites. And pho­tos with iden­ti­fiers can make your child an easy tar­get for any­one who might want to harm him. “CAN YOU SHOW ME HOW TO MAKE MY FACE­BOOK AC­COUNT PRI­VATE?” By ask­ing this ques­tion, you are ac­knowl­edg­ing and re­spect­ing the fact that your child knows about so­cial me­dia. He will also like that you’re ask­ing him for ad­vice. It al­lows you to see what he knows and doesn’t know about pri­vacy, giv­ing you the op­por­tu­nity to talk about what people can see on your ac­count, as well as who can read your posts and con­tact you. Make sure your child knows the im­por­tance of set­ting his ac­count pri­vacy to “friends only”. “WHAT DOES ‘FRIENDS OF FRIENDS’ MEAN AND WHO CAN SEE MY POST IF IT’S SET TO ‘FRIENDS OF FRIENDS’?” Once again, you are build­ing trust by ask­ing your child for ad­vice. It makes him feel needed and re­spected,

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