STAY IN TOUCH WITH YOUR GIRL­FRIENDS

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this year, and had to travel ev­ery other week­end. That was when the guilt hit the hard­est.”

So how does she deal with it? “I tell my­self that I’m work­ing to con­trib­ute to Aly’s fu­ture. Work also keeps me sane, and lets me keep my own iden­tity while be­ing a mum. When I’m home, I nd my­self so caught up with things like hav­ing to throw the best birth­day party or wor­ry­ing that Aly can’t speak Man­darin well. If I only have her wel­fare to think about, th­ese be­come the most im­por­tant things in life, and it’s not healthy for both of us.” condence to let go. “I read books on parenting and learnt from my friends’ ex­am­ples, and saw that giv­ing Aly space to play on her own, or with friends, boosted her imag­i­na­tion and helped her not to be so ‘sticky’ with me.” Be­tween jug­gling work, moth­er­hood and www.mums.sg ( her on­line shop­ping and com­mu­nity plat­form for moth­ers), Jamie says she hardly has time for any­thing else. But one thing she does carve out time for is a monthly girls’ night out with her clos­est friends.

“In 10 years’ time on a Fri­day night, your kids aren’t go­ing to be hang­ing out with you; when you ask them where they are, they’ll ig­nore your texts! (Laughs) It’s cru­cial to main­tain your friend­ships – this will not only help you cope with empty nest syn­drome, you’ll also be emotionally health­ier.” noth­ing much to talk about. “My hubby Thorsten and I still go on date nights once a week, and we make it a point not to talk about Aly when we’re out. This keeps the fo­cus on us – what we’ve been up to when we’re not to­gether, our work lives, in­ter­ests and so on,” says Jamie.

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