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Simply Her (Singapore) - - Life Made Easy Work -

Some­times, we fall into a rut and as­sume our habits are set in stone. Take a bird’s-eye view of your life and ask your­self: What changes could make life eas­ier?

Mar­i­lyn re­mem­bers meet­ing with a se­nior ex­ec­u­tive who, for 20 years of her mar­riage, ar­ranged din­ner for her hus­band ev­ery night. But as she was the higher earner with the more de­mand­ing job, the gro­cery-store trips and daily meal prepa­ra­tions were adding too much stress to her life.

“My re­sponse to her was, ‘Maybe it’s time to change the habit’.” The ex­ec­u­tive was wor­ried that her hus­band might be up­set, but Mar­i­lyn in­sisted that this struc­tural change could help her re­duce stress.

So in­stead of try­ing to do it all, fo­cus on ac­tiv­i­ties you spe­cialise in and value most. Del­e­gate or out­source ev­ery­thing else. Del­e­gat­ing can be a win-win sit­u­a­tion, says Ste­wart Fried­man, a man­age­ment pro­fes­sor from the Uni­ver­sity of Penn­syl­va­nia Whar­ton School and au­thor of Lead­ing the Life You Want: Skills for In­te­grat­ing Work and Life.

Ste­wart rec­om­mends talk­ing to the “key stake­hold­ers” in dif­fer­ent ar­eas of your life, which could in­clude col­leagues, a spouse, or a part­ner in a com­mu­nity project. “Find out what you can do to let go in ways that ben­e­fit other peo­ple by giv­ing them op­por­tu­ni­ties to grow,” he says. This will give them a chance to learn some­thing new and free you up so you can de­vote at­ten­tion to your higher pri­or­i­ties.

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