1. You and your other half go out for the evening.

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This is ex­cep­tional. Usu­ally we pre­fer to stay at home. Your hus­band usu­ally de­cides when and where to go. We usu­ally have a date night at the weekend. Noth­ing out of the or­di­nary – we’re al­ways to­gether. We had to jug­gle our di­aries to fit each other in. 2. In terms of taste (books, films, mu­sic) and ideas (po­lit­i­cal, cul­tural, spir­i­tual)…

We’re rather dif­fer­ent, and that’s fine.

We each have our own pref­er­ences, and it some­times gives rise to heated dis­cus­sions be­tween us.

We have lit­tle in com­mon and we don’t have mean­ing­ful con­ver­sa­tions.

We share views on most things.

I end up pan­der­ing to my hus­band’s tastes. 3. When a con­flict is brew­ing in your re­la­tion­ship, you tend to… Let your hus­band have his own way to avoid an ar­gu­ment. Wait it out. Pro­voke a blaz­ing row so you can both get things all out in the open. Speak calmly. Blame your hus­band for caus­ing trou­ble. 4. How of­ten do you so­cialise with your friends? Fre­quently – they of­ten come around. Now and then. We have a few very close friends. We of­ten all go out to­gether. We see our friends sep­a­rately a lot of the time. Only very oc­ca­sion­ally. 5. The words that best sum­marise the goals of your re­la­tion­ship are… Se­cu­rity and sta­bil­ity. Ten­der­ness and sup­port. Mu­tual ex­change and open­ness to the world. Mo­ti­va­tion and as­sis­tance. Com­fort and safety. 6. Who in your re­la­tion­ship brings new ideas or sug­gests ad­ven­tures? We share these dis­cus­sions. Usu­ally my hus­band does. It’s about equal be­tween us. Nei­ther of us. Some­times it’s me, but mostly it’s my hus­band. 7. You have to work late and your hus­band finds there’s not much at home to cook for din­ner. He waits for you – you’ll have gone to the su­per­mar­ket on the way home. He calls to ask what to do. He or­ders a take­away. To­gether, you make a meal out of left­overs in the fridge once you get home. 8. You both eat din­ner… Ev­ery day at around the same time. At 7.30 pm sharp. What­ever time you both get home from work. Of­ten at the same time. It’s flex­i­ble. 9. The plumber has to come round on Wed­nes­day morn­ing. So… You’re the one who has to wait in. Your hus­band said he couldn’t wait around be­cause of work. Your hus­band takes the day off, see­ing it as an op­por­tu­nity for a mid-week break. You ne­go­ti­ate ac­cord­ing to your di­aries. Your hus­band waits at home. 10. Who makes the de­ci­sions about things like fi­nances, hol­i­days, home in­te­ri­ors and weekend ac­tiv­i­ties? You do the home stuff, your hus­band does the rest. Both of you, af­ter dis­cussing things to­gether. There are no set rules. We de­cide to­gether, ex­cept in cer­tain ar­eas. Ev­ery de­ci­sion is taken by mu­tual agree­ment. 11. Your re­la­tion­ship is more like… A nest. A spring­board. A cas­tle. A ship. A train.

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