STILL GAME TO TRY FOR A BABY BOY
Dolores Au, 41, is the CEO of a family F&B business and the co-founder of e-commerce site Mummyfique. She is pictured here with her two younger daughters – Charlotte, two years, and Laura, nine months old. She has another three daughters aged 17, seven, and four. Follow her on Instagram @dollywolly88.
Dolores’ most recent pregnancy with Laura wasn’t an easy one. She recalls having to take hormone pills and was hospitalised at 30 weeks due to early contractions and bleeding.
Post-childbirth, it took her a longer time to recover.
“When I delivered Charlotte via caesarean section, I bounced out of bed the next day and ask my doctor to discharge me on the third day,” she says. “With Laura, the wound hurt so much, I opted to stay for five days.”
She also suffered massive hair loss and is still undergoing treatment. She even lost a tooth due to her dwindling calcium stores, and found her pre-baby energy level only after six months.
Even so, Dolores doesn’t think age is entirely to be blamed for the complications, or that it was her fourth caesarean-section delivery.
“It may be due to the fact that my last two C-section deliveries were too closely spaced, within 1½ years, and my body did not have time to recover,” she says. In fact, she wants to try for a baby boy, probably in a year’s time.
“I love the idea of having a large family with many kids running around during special occasions like Christmas and Chinese New Year,” says Dolores, who grew up in a close multigenerational extended family. She also has a four-year-old stepdaughter.
She feels that age and experience have made her a better multitasker and a wiser mum.
“Some things haven’t changed, like how I’m still quite the disciplinarian,” she says. “But I find that I’m a less stressed mum now. As I get older, I actually juggle family and work better than when I was just a mum of one.”
A woman below the age of 35 has a 60 to 70 per cent chance of becoming pregnant through IVF, but this chance falls to just 20 to 25 per cent for those above 40.