Find out if his friends are also anti-social and aggressive. Your child might have started bullying so as to remain acknowledged by them.
Is he always at the bottom of the family pecking order? Do other kids in the preschool bully? Discuss your concerns with preschool staff Tell your child you saw what he did Explain you have spoken to his teachers Encourage him to think of the victim
He may never have thought about the impact of his aggression on other children – he might simply see the incident as funny. Discuss how a victim feels.
He will be shocked and embarrassed that you and his teachers know about it. That’s likely to discourage further bullying.
Let him know you will watch closely from now on
Once he knows that you are aware of his bullying – and that you and his teachers will keep one another informed about this – it will deter him from acting this way. Understanding your child’s motivation will direct you towards the best course of action to resolve the situation. Here’s a ve-step guide: Talk to his teachers and explain that you saw him bully another child. Draw their attention to it so they remain vigilant and take action to stop his behaviour.
Your fouryear-old might think you are unaware of his action. Point out that you saw him at it and that this behaviour is unacceptable.
While “They all do it too, Mum” is not an acceptable excuse for misbehaviour, it’s always worth checking out if his friends are also anti-social and aggressive.
Children copy one another, and he might have started bullying so as to remain acknowledged by them.
It could be that your preschooler feels powerless and weak at home because everyone else seems to enjoy more choice and inuence. Perhaps bullying makes your child feel tough and powerful for once.