Mo­ti­vate your tween to pre­pare for her exam with these tips.

Young Parents (Singapore) - - C NTENTS -

Exam-time looms once again and you can see your pri­mary schooler’s en­thu­si­asm and condence be­gin to sag.

Full of self-doubt, lack of en­thu­si­asm, and a range of di­ver­sion­ary tac­tics, she needs your sup­port to keep her spir­its up. Here are 10 things you can say to boost her mo­ti­va­tion:

“You have done this be­fore.”

Re­mind­ing your child that she has pre­pared for ex­ams (or class tests, if this is her rst exam), helps her re­alise that she has tack­led the prepa­ra­tion and exam process al­ready.

She re­calls that she got through that pe­riod of her life the last time, so she’ll get through it this time as well.

“I know it’s hard.”

Even the most en­thu­si­as­tic pupil strug­gles at times to nd the mo­ti­va­tion needed for fur­ther study. There are so many dis­trac­tions. Your recog­ni­tion that study­ing is hard work makes her feel bet­ter about her­self. She’s pleased that you un­der­stand the chal­lenges.

“Stick to your re­vi­sion plan.”

Agree on a re­vi­sion timetable with her, and dis­play it be­side her study space. The plan should spec­ify how much time she needs to spend on re­vi­sion each day. This pro­vides a clear struc­ture for her to fol­low. Re­mind her each day to stick to it.

“Don’t for­get to take breaks.”

Your young one needs to reg­u­lar breaks when re­vis­ing for ex­ams, for ex­am­ple, a ve-minute break ev­ery 30 min­utes, and a day off on week­ends. Too much re­vi­sion with­out rest will sim­ply sap her mo­ti­va­tion. Breaks re­fresh her en­thu­si­asm.

“Tick off the days till the exam.”

From your tween’s per­spec­tive, re­vi­sion might seem never-end­ing. Sug­gest that she ticks off each pass­ing day on her chart. This pro­vides a good vis­ual re­minder that it will soon be over.

“I’m proud of your ap­proach.”

Pos­i­tive feedback is a pow­er­ful mo­ti­va­tor. Telling your kid that you are proud of the way she is tack­ling exam re­vi­sion lifts her self-es­teem and strength­ens her pos­i­tive at­ti­tude.

You’d be sur­prised at how ef­fec­tive those types of com­ments are on a child strug­gling to main­tain in­ter­est in re­vi­sion.

“Tell me what you nd difcult.”

She should know that you want to help her with some of the difcult top­ics to she has to tackle. If she asks you for help with some­thing you don’t know about, for ex­am­ple, word prob­lems in maths, tell her you’ll read about it and then give her the help she needs.

“Ef­fort matters.”

The re­sult of the exam matters, ob­vi­ously, but only one child will be top of the class, only one will be sec­ond, only one will be third and all the oth­ers are placed af­ter that.

Your child may not have the abil­ity to be placed in the top ranks, but she should know that you want her to try her best. Value her ef­forts, as well as her at­tain­ments.

“Keep things in per­spec­tive.”

This is only one exam. There will be oth­ers af­ter this. So, if her exam re­vi­sion doesn’t go ac­cord­ing to plan, and if she doesn’t get the grade she wanted, she will have other op­por­tu­ni­ties in the fu­ture. Know­ing that this isn’t her only chance may ease her fear of fail­ure and lift her spir­its.

“Re­mem­ber your pos­texam treat.”

At the start of the re­vi­sion pe­riod, prom­ise your tween a spe­cial treat once she has sat her exam. It doesn’t need to be lav­ish or ex­pen­sive, per­haps hav­ing her favourite fast-food meal to­gether or go­ing to see the lat­est kids’ movie.

When her mo­ti­va­tion ags, she should think about the treat wait­ing for her.

From your tween’s per­spec­tive, re­vi­sion might seem nev­erend­ing. Sug­gest that she ticks off each pass­ing day on her chart. This pro­vides a good vis­ual re­minder that it will soon be over.

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