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We’ve been through the Sin­ga­pore ed­u­ca­tion sys­tem and sur­vived it, maybe even thrived in it. But for some par­ents, grades take a back seat to cul­ti­vat­ing their chil­dren’s tal­ents.

Take for­mer ad­ver­tis­ing vet­eran Calvin Soh, for in­stance. Asked to give a TEDx talk on ur­ban farm­ing, he let his son, Dy­lan – then, just 10 years old – do it in­stead, work­ing with him on the script. Never mind that Dy­lan’s grades are, in the boy’s own words, “just pass”.

Calvin says: “I want them to see fail­ure as a jour­ney to suc­cess and not doom. There is no stigma around fail­ure.”

I couldn’t agree more. That’s why our ar­ti­cle, Se­crets of Su­per Kids (page 66), isn’t about straight-A stu­dents who do ev­ery­thing per­fectly. They’re nor­mal chil­dren who, for the most part, strug­gle to bal­ance school­work and their pas­sion.

And the se­cret to their suc­cess is sim­ple: Par­ents who sup­port, not sti­fle, in the words of one mum. It’s tough to break away from the se­cu­rity of the sys­tem we know (“study hard, get a good job”), but I reckon that we need to for our chil­dren’s sake.

The world is chang­ing so rapidly that the jobs they will have don’t ex­ist to­day. What skills will they need to do some­thing we par­ents can’t even imag­ine? Grit, for sure. Em­pa­thy. Cre­ativ­ity.

So, this Chil­dren’s Day, ask your­self if you are truly sup­port­ing or in­ad­ver­tently sti­fling your kid.

And, by the way, what you think you say may not be what they ac­tu­ally hear. I think Di­ana Ser puts this point across well in our in­ter­view with her on rais­ing bilin­gual chil­dren (page 70). Do you agree?

Stephanie Yeo Edi­tor

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