You could do this by hav­ing your child ob­serve oth­ers shar­ing or your­self as a role model.

Young Parents (Singapore) - - The Discipline Issue -

SIT­U­A­TION 2

Ev­ery nap­time is a bat­tle

Pair nap­time with a re­ward. You could sug­gest go­ing to the park or play­ing af­ter wak­ing up or say “Tak­ing a nap makes you stronger”, Donus says.

SIT­U­A­TION 3

My kid bites or hits when­ever she doesn’t get her way

Like pos­i­tive dis­ci­pline, you should find out why your lit­tle one is be­hav­ing this way for this strat­egy to work: Is she do­ing this to gain at­ten­tion? Does she think it’s fun or is she ex­press­ing anger?

If it is to gain at­ten­tion, the adult be­ing hit or bit­ten should show dis­plea­sure and ig­nore the child, Donus says. Fol­low up by say­ing “if you want to tell me some­thing, then you need to use words”.

If she’s do­ing it for fun, say “if you want me to play with you, then you should do things that make me happy. Bit­ing makes me up­set”, Donus sug­gests.

For all three sit­u­a­tions above, con­sider us­ing a re­ward chart for young tod­dlers. Draw a chart and list three to five things you’d like your child do – for in­stance no bit­ing, ask­ing nicely, tak­ing a nap, and so on, Donus sug­gests.

“If your child man­ages to do all of them, she gets a star for each com­pleted task and earns a nice re­ward. That said, par­ents need to en­sure that the re­ward is re­ally en­tic­ing to the child,” he says.

EMO­TION COACH­ING

This dis­ci­pline ap­proach fo­cuses on help­ing kids un­der­stand and cope with their emo­tions in a healthy man­ner.

Ac­cord­ing to re­searchers John and Julie Gottman, emo­tion-coach­ing helps raise suc­cess­ful, re­silient and wellad­justed kids who even­tu­ally learn to reg­u­late their own be­hav­iour.

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