Keep it age-appropriate
making it work
Not every strategy works on this age group. For instance, there’s no way a tot will learn anything from lengthy lectures or reasoning, says consultant psychologist Donus Loh.
Another strategy that may not work is the use of boundary-based discipline, which occasionally includes the use of time-outs. This may be effective in reducing misbehaviour in older preschoolers, but not for younger toddlers, says Dr Tzuo PeiWen Sophia, of Emile Preschool.
“While you may get a more immediate outcome with this discipline strategy, I would advise using it only as a last resort because younger children may not be able to internalise the situation,” she adds.
For emotion coaching to work well, the child requires a certain level of maturity and range of vocabulary, which a toddler may not have.
The bottom line: Don’t bank on one discipline method. The best strategy, Donus says, would be to blend the various discipline techniques, depending on the situation, environment as well as both you and your child’s temperament. form of discipline tactic, and have even revealed that overly-frequent spanking is detrimental and can even worsen children’s misbehaviour,” Dr Tzuo says.
Donus adds that good disciplinary techniques should help your child learn about the rights and wrongs of certain types of behaviour. This involves truly understanding why your toddler is behaving the way she is, then teaching her other positive ways to achieve what she wants as well as the negative consequences of her misbehaviour.