Own your choices

Young Parents (Singapore) - - Preschool Series -

“If you’ve made a de­ci­sion based on your own be­liefs and what works for you, don’t feel guilty be­cause of oth­ers do­ing things a dif­fer­ent way,” says Re­becca Aldridge, 37, a com­mit­tee mem­ber at New Moth­ers’ Sup­port Group (NMSG), a not-for-profit or­gan­i­sa­tion for mums in Sin­ga­pore.

“Ev­ery child is dif­fer­ent, and ev­ery mother has the right to make their own de­ci­sions and have their de­ci­sions ac­cepted not shamed.”

Don’t feel the need to jus­tify, ex­plain, elab­o­rate or ex­pand on your choices ei­ther, says Sil­via. It makes you sound de­fen­sive and en­cour­ages the other per­son to up the crit­i­cism.

Trust your ma­ter­nal in­stinct – deep down, you know what’s best for your child. Even if you do make mis­takes, for­give your­self quickly. Be open and flex­i­ble about chang­ing your mind re­gard­ing your par­ent­ing choices.

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