Own your choices
“If you’ve made a decision based on your own beliefs and what works for you, don’t feel guilty because of others doing things a different way,” says Rebecca Aldridge, 37, a committee member at New Mothers’ Support Group (NMSG), a not-for-proﬁt organisation for mums in Singapore.
“Every child is different, and every mother has the right to make their own decisions and have their decisions accepted not shamed.”
Don’t feel the need to justify, explain, elaborate or expand on your choices either, says Silvia. It makes you sound defensive and encourages the other person to up the criticism.
Trust your maternal instinct – deep down, you know what’s best for your child. Even if you do make mistakes, forgive yourself quickly. Be open and ﬂexible about changing your mind regarding your parenting choices.